I can't stand other people (*cough*MIL*cough* - she's the only one that does) "telling off" DS. I don't mind if he, for example, hits someone and they say "be gentle please, hitting hurts" which is normally enough. But I do take issue with people adopting a stern voice and having a go at him. Especially since he is Always within my earshot but they jump on him before I have a chance to speak to him. And never listen when I try to explain to them to use positive language (telling him what you want him to do rather than what not to do) and just do their own thing, which he never listens to.
Erm /vent


I guess what I'm saying is that they can tell him what he is doing is not nice, but gently and in line with the way I parent. Very rarely does his behaviour warrant anything more than a simple explanation, so having people tell him off when it's unneccesary really urks me.

I have spoken to other peoples children, but it's always the same way I speak to DS; "please be gentle, x hurts" I would never send someone elses child to timeout maybe that's because I don't like the idea of timeout myself, maybe it's not, but the thought of it makes me really uncomfortable. I may ask the child to play somewhere else or move DS away if they persist.