1 2 3 magic can anyone tell me some details or the techniques it recommends thanks

[Snacks]

LOL! That's funny
I haven't read the book but I often count to 3 with Natty to give her an opportunity to stop what she's doing before I deliver the consequences (unless what she's doing needs to be stopped immediately, e.g. lying on top of her sister - a regular occurrence! I have to remove her straight away).
I also am aware that positive attention is far more powerful than negative (through what I've read on here etc and also through experience) and so can understand how it also works to help a parent to take control of themselves. I hadn't recognised that before.

[diotima]

I think positive reinforcement is really important too; I use it a lot with my son. (I think they promote that in the book too)
I think positive reinforcement is good for the child and the parent. Sometimes I would just feel that he was naughty all the time - just one distressing/aggravating incident to the next. With the positive reinforcement it helped me to notice the good things he does and see that he actually is good most of the time. Its just so easy to focus on the negative.

[Tinks]

I did 123 Magic as a course but you can buy the dvds and books I believe.

[sue1386]

diotima

thanks that was helpful.
my kids are grown and at the time i did alot of
positive reinforcement
talking to them about what we do and dont do what i want and dont want
so that when they were in situations there was more chance of them doing what we wanted and not doing what we didnt want


now i regularly help someone close to me with their kids and their kids are a lively normal bunch. i would like to do my best again to work with the parents to support each other in reinforcing pos and reinforcing beahviours we want and dont want. otherwise any carers involved can end up quite overwhelmed and exhausted. thanks.

[fattysmum]

thats what it means. seems very simple really,