DD was the same alwasy feeding to sleep (now 16mths) and after trying a few different things they nearly all eded with both of us in tears so I just went with the flow and stayed with feeding to sleep.

The one and only thing that did work was with her morning sleep (that was also a feed to sleep) I'd feed her a little earlier when she was active still and then take her walking in the pram and she'd happily doze off there without a whimper. That at least gave me one sleep in a 24hrs period without feeling like I was the human dummy. And I also got some exercise!

At about 13mths I started to get her to have formula out of a sippy bottle (we still bfeed AM & PM) and she now has that at lunch and dinner and in the last 2wks the middle of the night - prior to this I was bfeeding at night as well.

We started co-sleeping at approx 8mths when she was sick (gastro) and went off solids and was feeding bfeeding 2hrly around the clock!! Co-sleeping was the only way to cope and we've continued with this. It also means if she stirs (tries to stand etc) that a quick pat, gentle 'mumma's here' whisper and she drops back off to sleep.

I also remember reading that the separation anxiety hits at about 9mths and slowly tapers off as they move towards 18mths so that may also be impacting on her need for security. I know for us at 16mths we are now noticing huge changes in her level of independance and confidence.

Like the others I don't think its bad habits, but rather a development stage that will change over time. Its hard at the time but it will get better.