Did you end up doing the course efjay? I've just finished session 5 and it's amazing! It hasn't just shown me how to help my girl be secure and why she acts a certain way, but it's teaching me a lot about myself. Why I react to things a particular way and new ways to think about things. If you haven't done it, I really can't recommend it more than enough! The lady running the course has said that even though she has teenagers, it has still helped her with understanding them better so it can be useful no matter the age of your kids.