Yep have both Elizabeth Pantley's and Pinky McKay's books.....they were more along the lines with what I wanted to do.

My DS had terrible sleep associations but when I think back on it, I can realise that I got to spend so much time with him, comforting him, and can see that he would have got so much out of it, all those cuddles!! Now, at 23 months, I put him into bed, switch off the light, cuddle, kiss and a "Goodnight, I love you" and he goes off to sleep on his own....he did it all on his own with no push from me.

I know it's the advice that you will get from every angle, but you have to do what you feel is right for you, your baby and your family