I think it just depends on the baby and finding something that works for them. With DD I normally put her in her cot, stick dummy in and give her her stuffed giraffe and she'll go off to sleep. But sometimes I need to pat her or rub her tummy, other times I need to sit on the lounge and have her snuggled against me patting her back (mainly in the middle of the night!), if she is tired she will fall asleep in her pram if we are out for a walk...so it's just a matter of what works at the time and maybe try a few things if what you are doing doesn't seem to be working.
thanks for that
i think most parents wish they could just put their baby/child in a cot and they go to sleep without cryng for hours . most parents wish they didnt have to be in a pattern of rocking wheeling, but many are. perhaps my question should have been those who succeeded in having a child who they put in a cot and they go to sleep easily how did they achive that, while also i know ofcourse children vary.
I have to lay with my almost 2yr old and have done so since he was tiny. He used to feed to sleep, so I would feed him in bed, pop his dummy in when he finished and when he dropped off, I just got up and got on with things. Now he's now longer feeding to sleep (only in the last week though) he only has his dummy, but the laying with him habbit is still there! I'm trying to gently break him of it by getting up just befoer he falls asleep, though it's not going so great, lol!
Good luck...sleep is a very sensitive subject in this house!
Well DD was always BF to sleep but at 11mths she stopped doing that even though she is still BF. She wouldn't fall asleep on the breast anymore (i was devastated LOL!!) so we started lying down next to her and she'd fall asleep that way. She then started to use it to fall back asleep on again which was great but by that stage we were used to lying down with her so have kept that up. Its relaxing for all of us and not long until shes asleep! Sometimes if i'm out of a day time she falls asleep in the car and then we get home and i carry her into the bed/cot from the car and she stays asleep
I honestly think you either have a baby who likes their sleep or a baby who doesnt!! LOL...... it's a matter of going with the flow and they change all the time..... being adaptable and not getting too comfortable with their current routine helps!!
I think its a matter of deciding how you are going to do it & stick to it. I decided I wanted my kids to be put to bed & to go to sleep on their own. I have done this since day one & besides when they've been sick it has worked. I did I guess you would call it "controlled crying" when they were younger & its worked here. When they are sick I rock them but still put them in bed awake so they can go to sleep on their own, unless they're so sick they wont settle then I will rock them to sleep, but I could count the amount of times I've done that on one hand.
I would just really suggest CONSISTENCY with whichever way you choose to do it
Good luck xx
ETA: just read your second post...
How I've done it is in the early days after they were fed & it was bedtime I would pop them in the cot with a dummy in their mouth & cuddling blankie when they were old enough, kiss on the forehead, say "goodnight I love you" then walk out & pull the door to.
When they got older (this is what I STILL do with DS who is 22 months old) pop into bed with bottle of milk, arm around blankie cuddling it & dummy in hand for when milk is finished, kiss on forehead & say "goodnight I love you", turn & walk out pulling the door to.
DS is now afraid of the dark so I leave the hall light on so he can get some light into his room.
I hope that makes sense & is helpful.
Goodluck
Last edited by ~breeze~; July 4th, 2010 at 04:41 PM.
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I feed my little one to sleep for naps and at bedtime. Failing that, DH takes her and cuddles her and she is out like a light. He'll put her down in bed and sometimes she wakes, so he'll pick her back up again, other times she just stays asleep.
I wish I'd known more about babies and sleep before she was born otherwise I'd have started letting her put herself to sleep from the start. But what we do works for us and she gets loads of cuddles which is very important to me and DH.
With DD, I just used to put her in her cot at the same time every night (give or take half an hour) and she'd be wide awake, and I'd just leave the room and not hear a peep from her till her midnight feed.
I don't know how she did this, but she's generally a happy, easygoing baby. I guess it's just her nature to do this, coz we didn't consciously 'train' her to do this, or anything.
(That said, now she never does this and just wants to play all the time and I have no idea how to get her to sleep.)
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how do u get your baby/toddler to sleep please?
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