I'm finding it hard to demand feed Bub and encourage good sleep habits within the confines of our everyday life - kindy drop offs and pick ups and regular appointments. As much as I want to be baby led and go by his cues, he really needs to have some vague pattern to his days otherwise he misses out on sleep when he's showing tired cues, or has to be woken for appointments or demands a feed in the middle of a car trip etc He usually only sleeps for 30-40 mins at a time, and I'm working on resettling him to try to encourage him to transition between sleep cycles....yesterday I was able to resettle him and he ended up sleeping for just under three hours (unheard of). Normally I'd have had to wake him after 1.5 hrs for kindy pick up, but thankfully a friend was able to pick up DS1 for me. I couldn't have put him down any earlier as he wasn't tired...because he'd fallen asleep during his earlier feed, so didn't finish it and ended up being hungry when he woke again so couldn't be resettled to sleep for longer. It's a vicious cycle...

Could I try giving a top up feed just before a (hopefully longer) nap? And gently try to encourage that nap at a time when I know I won't have to wake him for appointments?
Do your nap and feed times change depending on wake up times, and how does that work when you have places you need to be? He doesn't transfer well and pretty much hates the car so these are factors as well.

Any experiences or suggestions (or reassurance) most welcome