I dont have much time to explain, have a doctors appt... but it explains an teaches values and needs... needs as in someone 'needs' something like some quiet time to do some work and also values - things that don't affect you but you want e.g. dinner to be eaten a certain way, no playing at the table - whatever. Because we are all different and have different needs and values, so it teaches you to come to a medium with your child on values vs needs. I debated posting this article because you really need to learn the method to understand it. In the last week, I have instantly defused two blowups and I was happy as were they...