I have found that I was already doing some things that they teach, so its not a MAJOR change, but at the same time, some things have. But in terms of the changes, they have responded extremely positively right away, no issue at all, and which child would have an issue when they feel they are being heard and understood? For example if your hubby came home and said, 'You've been working so hard all day, you must be tired, let me take over those dishes for you.' Maybe you'd be surprised at first - but wouldn't take much to get used to - and how good would you feel? Appreciated? Understood? Like he KNOWS what you're going through.

Same with the kids. They respond so much better because they feel the love and the care. Not dictatorship or that mum is a pushover. You also have to bear in mind, its not like you do this every single day - you dont have problems every day that require this. Once a week we seem to have one major outburst requiring what we've learnt at PET. Then I can solve it quickly with peace, then get on with my evening while they sleep happily in bed. The more you practice it, the less you end up using it because the communication is tonnes better. Who wants a stressful home?