Save Our Sleep

[issy02]

liz - ahahaha...love it! Soooo true!

DD- Im not missing your point - i hear you loud and clear!!!! But I have to correct you, they are not just 'popular' or 'fashionable' right now (unlike the 'fashionable' Tizzie Hall) and not all are simply theories! Please, this is behavioural science, the science of the human brain and behaviour. Im not going to continue this argument, particularly if you have not spent 6 years studying child development and behavioural science!

I can say with absolute conviction that her methods go against all child development theories - HER METHODS go against all CHILD DEVELOPMENT THEORIES!!!!!! It is what it is....

And Im sorry, Im not getting into the whole breastfeeding/bottle feeding argument here, but DD and MLM those comments you made, make me so sad...is it all about what you need? what you want? whats best for you? you were turned off by bf? you couldnt stand it? I think TH is probably just the ticket for you both, since parenting seems to be about pleasing YOU!

Im not saying you are a bad mother for not breastfeeding your babies, its just the way you put it, and your reasoning behind it seems so cold. So many mothers try so hard to breastfeed their babies, and for whatever reasons, are not successful and have no choice. But to choose bottlefeeding because you were turned off by it...or just couldnt stand it...I just cant understand that. Sorry.

[Laranna]

I've been reading this thread with great interest but haven't posted because I have not read SOS, neither have I read Pinky or Pantley or any other parenting book. So I can't comment on that aspect.

But, I just wanted to put out there, there is a reason babies don't come with a manual. Trust your instincts. They will always be better than what's written in a book.

[Fleur]

I've been reading this thread with great interest but haven't posted because I have not read SOS, neither have I read Pinky or Pantley or any other parenting book. So I can't comment on that aspect.

But, I just wanted to put out there, there is a reason babies don't come with a manual. Trust your instincts. They will always be better than what's written in a book.

Well said, Eluned!

I have been reading with intrest also. I haven't read SOS, (but I am however reading The Science of Parenting).

Just wondering (purely out of curiosity) - it seems to me that a lot of you who read SOS & didn't like it went on to read other parenting books.

Just wondering if those of you who liked SOS & used it ever read (for example) Science of Parenting or anything else similar?

ETA:

I just dont understand the foot stomping and table bashing that goes on everytime this book comes up.

MLM, I agree we should be able to discuss differrent routines & choices respectfully.
I think it's just that people who feel strongly about this feel a responsibility to let other parents, especially new parents, know that there are other ways that may be more suited to them.
For example - if you read of a mother who was leaving her child alone in the car while she shopped, you would let her know it's not ideal, right? (I'm not comparing TH to leaving your child in a car - just making an example).
As someone who tried CIO and similar methods with my older children because I was told to by all the 'experts & professionals' I spoke to - and it didn't work for us - I wish there had been a book like TSOP for someone to steer me to. It would have saved me a lot of angst back then.
This is what I think Trillian & issy are getting at. (apologies, ladies if I've got you wrong )

[issy02]

MLM - its is not YOU i feel sorry for.

Jasp - good point. And I love your daughters name...i may have to steal that one and pop it onto my girls names list...

[Livinthedream]

And Im sorry, Im not getting into the whole breastfeeding/bottle feeding argument here, but DD and MLM those comments you made, make me so sad...is it all about what you need? what you want? whats best for you? you were turned off by bf? you couldnt stand it? I think TH is probably just the ticket for you both, since parenting seems to be about pleasing YOU!

Im not saying you are a bad mother for not breastfeeding your babies, its just the way you put it, and your reasoning behind it seems so cold. So many mothers try so hard to breastfeed their babies, and for whatever reasons, are not successful and have no choice. But to choose bottlefeeding because you were turned off by it...or just couldnt stand it...I just cant understand that. Sorry.

Issy, with all due respect, dont feel sorry for me, I dont.
I am not asking you to understand me. I just get sick of keeping my mouth shut because my choices dont fit in with the majority here. (although II suspect I am not the only one by a long way, but anyhoo)

I just dont understand the foot stomping and table bashing that goes on everytime this book comes up. If are confident in your parenting decisions, why do you feel the need to beat the crap out of any method that doesnt agree with your ideology?
Hell, I could have posted in so many threads where people have had sleeping issues, but I have chosen not to, because I understand that TH isnt for them and I respect their right to do it the way that they are most comfortable.

My DS gets cuddles, he comes into bed with us in the morning, and I always get up to him if he cries in the night, because if he is upset, I KNOW there is something wrong, otherwise he just settles himself straight back to sleep.

FWIW, I didnt start SOS until DS was 4 months, I tried the gentle way,and my instincts told me that it wasnt working for us, so I tried a different way