Neither. Well more accurately, in the middle of both.

I guide my children towards the best path for them, my life experiences don't really influence that, and I certainly don't let them learn for themselves. That sort of parenting is only ideal when the child is no longer a child, but an adult where the "they need to learn for themselves" is more acceptable.

A parent's job is not to leave the child to learn for themselves, nor to push their own life experiences or insecurities on the child, but to guide them through life and be a good role model so the child can learn to be the best person they can be.

If that makes any sense at all lol