yes - I didn't realise the impact it would have on my life... I knew that I would miss not having my mum there to ask etc but I didn't realise the level of grief that you can experience or the jealousy of other girls who can drop the baby at their mums, or have their mum come and help when you are having a hairy time. Reading the book helped to clarify a lot of what I was feeling and made it feel "ok" to be angry etc.