OMG what a doozy.... Not knowing anything about your relationship and only casual bits here and there about your life on here, (I am assuming you are together) but I peeked at it and put it in my point of view - if that was my partner, and we were knowingly living, loving and having family together, I WOULD NOT TOLERATE THIS at all. Does he know you know? Has he talked before about these 'interests'? Do you share his interests? The main point is, IS THIS healthy to have around your children....???

If this was my partner, and in all cases where I offer my advice, it is advice only.... I would print it out, and wait for the kids to be in bed, and quietly ask him what it meant, what does it mean to your relationship, and what does it mean for the children - their safety and wellbeing...

I would be well and truly shocked, upset, and disappointed. Even if it was 'for a laugh', I would still be surprised to let this into our homes, our lives, and our sacred trust of our relationships...

Ok, to turn the coin and assume you guys are taking 'relationship vacation', I would still be questioning it. But I am unsure of your situation. I just put me in your shoes, for this example...

My heart and hugs go out to you Tanya....