Thanks Em big hugs to you also! I think the stuff he has posted on that profile is quiet disgusting and the photos off himself, it isnt something a "father" should be doing!!
I dont know you very well Tanya but I looked at the profile and all I can say is - my hubby would be DEAD. That kind of behaviour would be on my "not on" list so I would have his bags packed and the locks changed.
For one, you are the MOTHER of his kids. Disrespecting the mother of your kids like that is unacceptable and THE worst thing a man could ever do. Secondly, I am assuming you are together full time not taking a break, but either way even if he was doing that while you were taking a break then he absolutely cannot be serious about making your relationship work.
He mustnt respect you as a person, woman or a mother if he thinks you'd let him get away with that kind of behaviour.
I hope I havent stepped on toes, its just Im a strong minded woman and dont feel that ANY woman is that low in her life that she should tolerate being treated like that. We are fabulous human beings and fabulous mothers and we deserve the BEST life has to offer.
here, here to anna... id have to agree that my hubby wouldnt be coming home tonight, and just out of curiosity i asked my hubby what he would think if i were to do that and his reply was well you dont want to be with me... and that our relationship would be over. its not something you do in a relationship.. even if you want to hurt someone.. that in itself is a little concerning..
if he has done it before thats really a cause of concern babe that he doesnt consider your feelings and sacrifices youve made for your family.
i think you really need to clear your head and work out what you want.
ANNA>>>>> where in bushy beach are you babe? id love a catch up with a "local" haha
You go away for a couple of hours and come back to this!!!! Wow
I dont know anything about you or your relationship Tanya but I do know that you deserve respect and to be loved as a person and as a mother. I hope you dont mind a little advice from a someone you havnt meet!!!
It is very hard to find the strength to leave an unhealthy relationship and to not fall back into it again and again...its one of those life experiences that you unfortunately need to go through to learn from.....and even when you do go through it...that doesnt mean it wont happen again, it just means you are a little wiser next time.
Im sure you will make the right decisions for you and your kids and that you know in your heart what is the best thing to do.......
Tanya,
I totally agree with Nicola. You need respect and love as a person and a mother. And you summed it up correctly when you said, that A FATHER should not be doing this sort of thing.
Honestly, what each and everyone does behind bedroom doors should not be made public, whatever your preferences. This is humilating for you, and eventually your children one day.
If he has to resort to such childish, improper behaviour to 'teach' you a lesson, then a close and careful look at this "MAN" (and I use this term lightly) is in order. I hate, hate, hate to cause anyone dramas in their lives, but as most of us girlies have been saying, there needs to be a solution found pretty quick.
As Emma said, clear your head, and come up with some safe and sound solutions to help your family. That doesn't neccessarily mean leaving him, but definitely setting up some ground rules to never, ever allow this sort of 'techno-infidelity' to happen again...
Thanks Ladies for your replies and thoughts its made me feel so much better to no i have so much support from use ladies who ive never even meet! I still havent had a chance to properly talk to him, but then i think i shouldnt even bother because his only going to lie to me anyway, and id probably just turn into a blubbering mess as i am feeling un-well today and had next to no sleep last night!
On a better note, i sat down last night and worked out all my driving hrs and i only need 9 more which i will clock up b4 Monday so i can send my book off and then two weeks after doing that i can do my driving test, and hopefully pass! then i can finally meet you ladies
Tanya,
I am really happy that you are focussing on the positive aspects of your life. It is sometimes hard to 'not' dwell on issues and fall into a black pit, which not only affects you and your house-life, but your children too. This step also enables you to get out the house too!! Sometimes focusing on yourself, and your children, and making positive changes to your life can help show the way to the future. You will know in your heart the right time to talk to him, seriously, without conflict.
I know if I am in a stink with my DH, I clean and clear out furiously, madly scrubbing the house, not sure if this gets the point across but at least it keeps my mind busy, and not sit and listen to sad songs all day... (even though it is tempting!)
I am looking forward to meeting you, as well as another meet-up with the other girls. Today we are busy at home (well, I am - I cleaned house, car, and even dogs!) but hopefully next week I will have a morning to chill out with you ladies...
Hi Tanya
I have just read his profile and don't really know what to say. It's hard to comment unless it's happened to you.
It must be very hard to now be able to talk to him about this in person. I can only guess that you must be feeling very betrayed and upset. I think it would hurt that he mentioned he was not only single but had no children.
When does he come home? It is hard to have conversations like that over the phone.
I have had a similar experience with friends of mine. Do you have an email address, I can tell you about it and offer some more advice if you like.
Good on you for focussing on yourself and the kids. Trying to take your mind off it hopefully will help.
Hi girls... Wow... I just popped by to see if anyone wants to catch up on either Monday or Thursday's...
I was just going back over the threads and Tanya, I don't know you but I am sorry that you have such a problem in front of you. My advise is to go see a counsellor and talk it through. He doesn't have to go with you but the way I see it is at this point you have a big decision to make, to stay or go and there are many things that you need to weigh up to make that decision. But one thing, the decision is yours not his as to whether your relationship continues. Your right, there is a lot of support here for you
Anyhoo, Sorry I didn't make it to the Friday day, would have LOVED to but its my little people free day so I cleaned the house from top to bottom!! But would love to catch up soon
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which i will clock up b4 Monday so i can send my book off and then two weeks after doing that i can do my driving test, and hopefully
pass! then i can finally meet you ladies
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