My mum is sick - DD and her are VERY close. We have been making sure DD sees mum in the hospital every day. Over the past week she watched mum go from covered in tubes and wires in Critical Care, to being on the normal ward, and then going home, and being quite ok. less than 12 hours after she went home she went back into emergency with a secondary infection (we think) and is now, again, quite unwell. We took DD to see her last night, and DD coped fine (she has coped fine all along) - today however, she is acting out.

it could be tiredness (we've had a full on week, obviously), it could be age related. and it could be from seeing mum unwell

DD has been through a lot in her little life. she has been witness to me losing consciousness due to low BP many times, had to get DH for me when i was bleeding uncontrollably due to miscarriage (and then had boob and fell asleep snuggled to me while they cared for me in emergency). she's had hernia surgery, she's been in emergency for tonsilitis and severe dehydration herself, she's been there after DH had surgeries for skin cancer and open wound management. None of this we could really protect her from (logistically speaking) as we don't always have a carer available if we have to go to emergency. As a result, DD seems to be pretty relaxed and doesn't fret about medical stuff

but she is acting out. she is teary. she is screaming at us and speaking back a lot more than seems normal for her at this point.

am i doing the right thing by taking DD? it feels like the right thing to do - to not hide it - to let her see that granma isn't well, but is being looked after. and it feels right to take her for mum's sake.

i always make an effort to try and get her to talk about why she is yelling and stuff - and i'm even more conscious of it at the moment. she said at one point that she was worried about granma, and then started talking about other stuff and asked me to tickle her.

should i be asking her to talk about granma/hospital, or just letting her lead.

clearly i'm a mess myself with all that is going on - and i don't want her to see how much this is impacting me - but i also can't pretend it's not. and i don't want her to think her feelings are wrong because mummy and daddy don't seem to share them kwim?