DS and daycare

**black_rose** · May 12th, 2014, 08:05 PM

You still have time to decide, they said a similar thing to us with dd2 as well at this time of year but by October she was ready, especially when kinder started doing more school orientated stuff like writing her name and learning shapes and patterns etc. she is thriving in school this year. I also think it was boredom and wanting to be extended. It wouldn't hurt to keep an open mind though just in case you do need to make a decision to wait a year.

We tried to encourage lots of social situations for dd and sat and read with her and did writing when ever we could.

**teresa** · May 13th, 2014, 02:54 PM

thanks so much ladies

we went in yesterday and had a chat with them. turns out all the issue is now is that he wont sit still during group time and needs some prompting to stay there. they said he will eventually get there with constant reminders to stay seated. we are trying to get him to do the same at home too. they were very surprised that he knows his alphabet and numbers so well.

**Olive** · May 13th, 2014, 03:17 PM

My DD is also starting next year (turns 6 in feb) she is quite bright too, but emotionally wasn't ready, she will be next year,
There isn't any hurry, they have 13 long years ahead of them, why make the start of that journey harder than it needs to be?
Social and emotional readiness is far more important, look up Kathy walker.
If he is bored then the kinder should be extending him, it should tailor things around individual learning, perhaps he isn't bored rather not interested, then agin the kinder need to see that and involve him or maybe he just doesn't want told told what to do, I think we all just assume kids are bored when they aren't. DD is in 4 yr old kinder as a 5 yr old and is never bored!!

**HotI** · May 13th, 2014, 03:32 PM

they were very surprised that he knows his alphabet and numbers so well.

If he is there 2 days a week, and they are assessing his readiness for school, how did they miss that?

I do worry about kids who stay back getting in to trouble bc they are bored and find things to amuse themselves. My dd is born at start of year and we are waiting awhile to decide on next year.

**Olive** · May 13th, 2014, 04:34 PM

Hot are you worried about DD bring bored doing kinder again? It's up to her kinder to make sure that doesn't happen
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**HotI** · May 13th, 2014, 06:12 PM

Hot are you worried about DD bring bored doing kinder again? It's up to her kinder to make sure that doesn't happen
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No, I am worried about her being bored at school, if she is not being challenged. I am thinking further ahead than just the next couple of years.

**Olive** · May 13th, 2014, 08:51 PM

No, I am worried about her being bored at school, if she is not being challenged. I am thinking further ahead than just the next couple of years.

I would worry more about a child falling behind/struggling than getting bored.
DD1 is reading 2+ years above where she should be and writing 3+ years above! she's not bored!! Teachers challenge kids.

**HotI** · May 14th, 2014, 09:23 AM

In an ideal world, kids will always get teachers who have the drive and resources to offer work that challenge s them. I know both dh and I were left unchallenged by school (some years), and either pretended to not get it, became class clown, disruptive or just skeptical of education in order to amuse ourselves. Other years, we had brilliant teachers.

Just one thing that is coming in to working out what to do. All my kids are born at start of the year, so we will have to do this a few times.

**teresa** · May 13th, 2014, 06:50 PM

If he is there 2 days a week, and they are assessing his readiness for school, how did they miss that?
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I honestly have no idea. there are 3 girls in the room too.

**wysiwyg** · May 14th, 2014, 09:53 AM

If he is there 2 days a week, and they are assessing his readiness for school, how did they miss that?

I do worry about kids who stay back getting in to trouble bc they are bored and find things to amuse themselves. My dd is born at start of year and we are waiting awhile to decide on next year.

We had an info evening last night, school does not require any knowledge of letters and numbers (maybe recognising own name), mainly what they need is social and emotional maturity and an interest in learning. So I can see how they can 'miss' that knowledge because they are not looking for it, it isn't considered one of the 'readiness' things, whereas what they have mentioned would be.

I think is too early to make a decision but I would place some weight on what they say especially later in the year - particularly as school is more like the daycare/kinder environment than the home environment.

I think the opposite is also true - if daycare/kinder think your child is ready for school I would also tend to go with their view. I personally think it can be quite disadvantageous to life skills to be too far ahead and possibly bored.

**HotI** · May 14th, 2014, 12:24 PM

We had an info evening last night, school does not require any knowledge of letters and numbers (maybe recognising own name), mainly what they need is social and emotional maturity and an interest in learning. So I can see how they can 'miss' that knowledge because they are not looking for it, it isn't considered one of the 'readiness' things, whereas what they have mentioned would be.

Oh I agree that the social emotional maturity is what they are looking for to determine readiness, but I would be surprised that carers looking after a child two days a week, in an educational setting, weren't aware of the child's maths/English skills.