That is a pretty extensive list of exclusions - my twins have food issues due to ASD and if we had a kinder that put that many food exclusions for us then DS1 would not be able to take anything to eat as he has a very limited diet and your list pretty much wipes out what he would eat and DS2 has issues with dairy and fructose (which my other children don't have) and as the parent I would think that it is up to me to provide suitable foods for him and not exclude everyone else to accommodate him.

I have no idea how you will feed your child apart from finding maybe 1 or 2 safe foods and them sending that 'everyday'.