Techniques for nearly-four-year-old tantrums

[Frangipani Lou]

I have some gentle ideas for you. I'll come back and post when my brain is a bit more alert.

[trishalishous]

Im usually able to de-rail my 4yo when she starts to get worked up. I validate how she is feeling, and ask her how we can fix it. sometimes I can get away with saying "We will go to the park on the weekend" and putting it off for a few days (but then I DO take her to the park of course)

[HotI]

i recently did a positive parenting course, and before working on the 'issues', we spent time trying to build up the child's emotional piggy bank (recognising the good things they do, and praising them as often as possible). this created more positive behaviour, and also helped us to see the good things she was doing.

check out your local community centre or health nurse, and ask if there is anything in the local area. mine was done via telephone call once a week and has made a big difference to our house.