i have opened this thread a few times and keep getting called away. It could be a combo of all your reasons, but my DD became quite clingy and edgy coming up to when baby was born.

We moved DD into a king single bed a few months before DS was born, and the move (from co-sleeping/side car cot) was alot smoother than i thought it was going to be. Also heaps easier to settle in than a cot. DH often lays down with her, but as i got heavily pregnant i couldn't do it- and get off the bed again without disturbing her - so we have a comfy chair next to her bed that is sleepable in if needed.

When she started going to sleep in her bed, rather than transferring her after sleep, she seemed to be less upset when she woke up in bed. But i'm not sure what came first, because she wasn't ready to go to sleep in her bed until she did it ITMS.

We are fortunate in that DD accepts DH (most of the time) to help her get back to sleep. DH works night shift couple of nights and then it is back to me. Having 2 that need you does get tough.

DDs sleep did get better again after DS was born. And although for the first few months i did wonder wth we had done, now it is really nice with the 2 kids. The little one watches and laughs at the big one. And the big one will pat and sshhh the little one, and go close to him so he will touch her.