I think that your concerns regarding the doctor are well founded (just from reading teni's posts in the past). and no matter, even if he was a nice guy he's just not the right fit for you guys if you know what i mean. i can highly recommend taking a 'different' road for this journey; it is no doubt going to have its challenges (as well as beauties xx) but i found that after recovering from my post traumatic stress disorder after the birth of my daughter it was VERY important that i minimise the associations of the awful care that i received and it has made a difference this time around. it might be worth while even investigating different hospitals (you can book into a few) and get to know some of the care-providers and then when you find the right person (and you'll know when you do) then you can cancel your other bookings and go from there (for example, i live in Northcote and booked into RWH, Box Hill AND the mercy FBC). we went to the tours and spoke to the midwives (only cause we were going with a midwife led care...but i guess if you guys go OB it will be similar).
sending you big and congratulations (i could see the line that teni posted!!).
also, I can only speak from a perspective of having lost pregnancies in the early weeks, but I found that it is normal for the trepidation and fear once you see that BFP. One way that I have processed that is that as a parent it is inbuilt that you feel the need to protect your family and you love them so so dearly...even from the moment that second line comes up, and it's ok. it's ok to be scared, you love them. take the fear and direct it: use it to make a positive (and trust me, it seems you are already doing it...getting rid of that doctor is the beginning of renewal and protection for you, for teni, for Ianto and for this little bubba).
and congratulations (i could see the line that teni posted!!).
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