Hi Nikkita and welcome to BB. congratulations on your new pg!
1) don't feel in the least embarrassed about going to a public hospital. I did too, even though I have private cover, because I needed the high risk care.
2) I'm sorry about other people's reactions. I have been hurt too by this. Just try to remember that these are people who care about you and hope never to see you in pain again. That is really what they are trying to say.
All the best.
I am sorry you are having to put up with people telling you not to worry and telling you not to tell them! People can have strange reactions sometimes. Just know that we are all here for you and we understand what you are going through. There is no way you can not stress at a time like this, and you need the support of your family and friends. If they are not going to give that to you, come here and we will help.
Have you had any counselling? I just had my first session with a counsellor on the w/e after my second loss. I will be going regularly and she will be teaching me ways of dealing with the stress and worry, and is trying to make me realise that each pg is different and its own thing and has nothing to do with any other pregnancies. I know it is hard to think like that, but it may be worthwhile seeing someone who can help. There are definitely public counsellors you should be able to see through the hospital for free. Sorry, you may have already done this, I just thought I would suggest it in case you haven't.
And there is nothing wrong with going public - public hospitals are usually fantastic and I am sure you will receive the best of care.
I am thinking of you and hoping that all works out for you
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