Hi Jennifer,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss and can understand a little of what you are going through. I lost my daughter Angel in November 2006 at 22 weeks 6 days due to pprom. I had a slow leak which went unnoticed and when I was suddenly admitted to hospital with bleeding and severe cramping it was too late. I was already in labour. Our beautiful girl lived for 3 hours before earning her wings.

Test results and a post mortem could not explain why this happened and it was put down to being just one of those things!

I have done a lot of research myself and now I am 9 weeks pregnant with my second child and (just like you) I am terrified of the same thing happening again. Unfortunately I dont have any answers to help you as I am asking many questions still.

I am at a loss as to why I have not been deemed a high risk pregnancy due to my past experience, my age (40) and the thyroid condition I have. And am very concerned that because of this I will not be monitored as closely as I would like. I also find it extremely unfair that the medical profession expects us to go through this twice before they deem us to have a history and take closer care.

I guess I will just have to be a real Pain in the Butt to doctors ob/gyn etc and ask lots of questions and push for what I feel is best for us.

There are many happy stories out there that follow an expericnce such as ours and that is what I will cling to for now. I am trying my hardest to think positively and reassure myself that we will soon have a healthy baby in our arms and I wish that for you too Jennifer.

Hugs
Leonie