Maybe you could have a blessingway instead...OMG they are so spirital and amazing.
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blessingways are a beautiful process that is all about inclusiveness and acknowlegement off all that are here, to come and passed. (this could also be a way to include Ianto in the celebration of his little brother or sister). I LOVE blessingways they are so gorgeous and really allow everyone to share their stories of their births, children etc. and you'd be surprised...even those that i thought wouldnt be 'into' it, came along to my friends and really got into it....

anyway, just a thought.

Also, maybe for the invite, you could say something like: "...please join us in celebrating the imminent arrival of our baby 'cookie', the day will be full of fun, laughter, happiness and rainbows...".

And maybe on the invite you could have like a PP mentioned a rainbow motif...and maybe something special for Cookie? see when i think 'rainbows' i also think 'blue birds' (thank you wizard of oz!)...kinda like two peas in a pod...exactly what siblings are!

HTH!