Hi Ladies,
How are all the new bubs? I haven't seen any new pictures!
Everything has been going well for me. Our little man is still breech, has been for a month or more now. Doesn't look like he really wants to turn. I wanted a c-section anyway.
We started the nursery! It has been fun but very emotional for me.
Wow, I've been so busy that I hadn't thought about how long it'd been since I'd gotten a subscription update from BellyBelly. Hi Laney! Great to hear from you and hear that everything is going well -- aside from bubben being breech of course, but that is a relatively easy problem to accept in "our world".
As far as all the new bubs -- I'm going to be honest. I'm having trouble accepting Benjamin. It's early yet so I don't think I officially have "PPD," and neither am I surprised -- my counselor and I both knew that it was going to be a challenge once Kebab became a flesh and blood baby. I feel like I've been "stuck with someone else's kid," I feel like Lori has been eliminated and been replaced with a milk machine... I admit this because it makes me feel stronger to say "Yes, even though I fought to have my baby, I'm not all bouncy and joyful and over the moon" and be able to be honest about it. I am still convinced that I will love him more than the world if I'm given time and help. Since several months back I've been pre-signed up for a program here that helps select women in the area "bond" with their new babies. I felt a little dumb taking them up on the offer, as it's possible the other moms will be 17 years old or recovering alcoholics or all kinds of other reasons that bring women to the program -- but again, I now feel like it's okay for me to say, hey, I am a person who sometimes needs lots of emotional help and I'm takin' it.
Benjamin looks just like his daddy, I believe, and I can at least say that I think THAT is just beautiful.
One thing that no one said to me that I wish they had is that the brand-new baby can nurse so often that you can't get away to pee when you need to and that everyone will just tell you that that's normal. Or rather, they'll say "it's normal for them to eat as often as once even 2 hours" and you say "but he eats once or twice an hour, and for up to a half hour each time!" and they say "Oh, well that's normal, too." Everyone wants to come and visit and I'm like, "I haven't bothered putting a shirt on for 3 days, so perhaps I'm not ready for visitors yet."
Tildy - it took me almost 2 months to accept that DD was here to stay and wouldn't be taken away like Caitlyn. MIL was watching me closely because she recognised the difficulties I was having bonding to her. Now - it is all good. I have the most adorable little girl and she is all mine!!!
I don't think it is abnormal to feel the way you do. After a late loss it is often hard to accept that this earth baby is here to stay
yay, starting the nursery!! It is a really big step but I'm glad you are there now.
Do you have a timeframe for the C-section? 39 weeks or so?
Are you on facebook, I have lots of pics of Henry on there.
Lori, I totally get where you're coming from... you think you're prepared but the ideas in your head that you've formed are quite different from the actual event... like you hear the term 'put them down' and it implies they will actually sleep once you've done that, when in reality it can be quite different!! The first 3 weeks were really tough for me too, and most of the time I still feel like I'm minding my nephew or something, it just doesn't click that he was inside me, even when he's on the boob. I also think a big part of it is when they're this little they don't interact with you as a parent as opposed to other people, which changes in time obviously. Anyway, good on you for asking for help, it is the brave and responsible thing to do.
Laney - I am so happy to read that you have started setting up the nursery. I know that it is terrifying but good on you for taking this next step. I am so excited for you. You have done an amazing job so far and I know that you will be a very happy mummy in no time. I love watching your ticker move forward.
Lori - I think it is great that you are doing that program. I agree that it is hard for us mums as we fight and battle to get our babies and then that instant bond doesn't always turn on straight away. And yes breastfeeding is hard. It is in fact the hardest thing I have ever done - no let me correct that...the first 9 weeks of breastfeeding was the hardest thing I have ever done. I was very close to giving up and going to formula and then it all just clicked and I haven't had a problem since. It is exhausting and I felt so cheated when I realised that the timed the feeds from the beginning of the feed. Anna was the same in the first week or so - sitting on my breast nonstop. She did speed up though and her feeds are now only about 10 mins! I am the envy of mothers in my mothers group. Take whatever help and support is offered to you, and say no to visitors if it helps. I found having visitors was hard as I was exhausted and they would then get Anna all revved up and I would be left with an overstimulated and exhausted crying baby. I learnt how to read her signs and would take her back once I thought she had reached her 'friendly' limit. Take care and look after yourself!
I will have to update my photo gallery of Anna. She will be 6 months soon. Time has flown. She is lovely and laughs and smiles nonstop. She really is a joy.
Have lovely days and I can't wait to welcome some more babies to this group.
I am all smiles today I have my 12-13 week NT scan, I will get such a good look at bub and my MIL is coming along too which will be a nice experience for her. My DH will get to see bub tonight the place does the images onto a disk for you. It will be the first time since our 8 week ultrasound pictures that he will see bub.
I soooooooooooo cannot wait and I am almost into the 2nd tri YAY
Nae, great news having your scan, enjoy seeing bubba again Your MIL will be tickled pink t be there
Laney I guess then that breech is not such a big worry if you wanted a c-sec anyhow. Any dates in mind yet?
Tildy yay for being brave enough and strong enough to admit it. And yep b/f can take hours. I know at night it seems I have not long put Daniel back into his crib and he is awake wanting to start again. Daytime just seems like one non-stop snack time. I know it will settle down but at the moment between him, a demanding 4 yr old, my dad being sick and put into hospital.. just all seems to be overwhelming right now.
Rozzie I am facebook but how do I add you without posting a link or something I'll get into trouble for?
Lee how are you feeling? When do you see Steve? My dad is in Calvary so I'll try and drop by on one of my drive pasts. I'll ph beforehand though lol.
I better go see to this child who is driving his dad up the wall.
hugs
Jude
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Everyone wants to come and visit and I'm like, "I haven't bothered putting a shirt on for 3 days, so perhaps I'm not ready for visitors yet."
I am all smiles today I have my 12-13 week NT scan, I will get such a good look at bub and my MIL is coming along too which will be a nice experience for her. My DH will get to see bub tonight the place does the images onto a disk for you. It will be the first time since our 8 week ultrasound pictures that he will see bub.
Your MIL will be tickled pink t be there
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