Pregnancy after Stillbirth/Recurrent Miscarriage or Late Loss March/April 2010

[Miss.B]

Hi girls,

Cindee, welcome back and congrats on your pg! Hope you DO get over the 30 week mark, fingers and toes crossed. It must be pretty stressful for you with each pg. Do you know why your babies come so early?

Jo, sorry to hear the m/s is still there!! The pooey nappies would make me sick too! lol. Have you tried the Blackmores m/s tablets? I took them and they worked wonders.

ButterflyForever, yay for the belly started to show and m/s stopping!!

Dory, yay for a nice long cervix hun! It certainly is something to get excited about

Laney, so happy your scan went well sweets

Hi to everyone else, I hope you're all doing well, keep up the good work!!

B xx

[Laney]

Hi Ladies!
I had a scan today and everything looked good. He was practicing his breathing and doing everything that he should be. I am on weekly scans now so it should help keep the crazy lady away. Bub has been having a few quiet days this past week

will be back later, it is time for Grayson's lunch and nap

[dory]

Cindee - Getting past 30 would be good for you. I have everything crossed!

Butterfly - you had me chuckling with the furtive glances to your belly but people being to scared to say something.... LMAO....

Laney - glad your scan went well... so when next week do you have another? Bubs for me is still breech. Still plenty of time to turn, so I am assuming one of the positions that the middie told me about to help turn baby by giving baby more room... DH is now in on the act and left for work today with a reminder to me to do my pose, and to keep in the right positions.... LOL I was wondering when he'd start to get clucky and protective. He told me last night ( after our first antenatal class ever) that he was in fact really excited. .... I have to remember not to rain on his parade too often, as it is pretty cool for him to be excited.

AngelLukes Mum - the stitch is planned to come out at 38 weeks.... eeek... I was hoping 37... but Ob prefers 38. One of the reasons I prefer 37 is..... well this is embarrassing... but DH and I have a fantasy of breaking the BD'ing drought with one attempt before baby arrives, but only after the stitch is out.... LOL. 37 gives us more time in theory for the great love in. In reality I don't care, just as long as bubs stays snuggley and well for as long as possible.

Beata - do you remember when Cameron was two weeks old and at least for me it was sooooooooo exciting and now he's 4 1/2 months old?

Hiya to everyone else - JLK, KAM, Klee....

[jlk]

wow Dory, look at that ticker flying

Laney - good to hear you scan went well, xoxox

[AngelLukesmum]

Hi

Cindee - I hope you can make it past 30 weeks! Thats great that Miranda is doing so well, sounds like it won't be long till she is off and walking by herself

Butterfly - I can totally feel your pain on the cold and coughing - thankfully mine has finally gone. I must say I was very grateful for my good pelvic floor when I had my bad coughing fits!

Laney - great news on the scan! Hows Grayson going?

Beata - thanks for dropping in and checking up on us. Cameron is growing so fast; 4 months is a lovely age so enjoy it as much as you can babe

Dory - I had to laugh at your post about wanting your stitch out at 37 weeks and why...I wanted the same thing!! My ob did 38 weeks as well though and I ended up induced that same day so so much for that plan LOL.

Hi to everyone else

AFM, nothing new to report, still feeling sick. I see my ob Friday morning for our 1st appt so I'm just slowly counting down the hours...

[Laney]

AngelLukesmum, Grayson is doing great. He is running around like a wild child and starting to talk a lot. He is also starting to test his boundaries which has been very difficult for me over the past couple of months. I am starting to get very worried about adding a second to the mix. It should be interesting!

Cindee, did you have your first appt. this week? So great to read that Miranda is doing well.

Dory, You still have lots of time for bub to turn. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Good luck with your BD'ing....it sure can be difficult to get comfortable enough to enjoy it at 38 weeks!


beata70 , how is everything going with your little man? Are you thinking about adding another one yet?


ButterflyForever, yay for Ms being gone and starting to grow a tiny belly!

jlk, how is Tehya doing? I can't believe that she is almost 4 weeks already.

AFM, I have a scan every Monday! It is great but very difficult with Grayson. We are starting to think about getting another room ready. Just thinking!
MS has actually started to return! It did around this time with Grayson as well. I feel horrible and tired. I hope it passes soon.

[helle]

just popping in for some quick belly rubs. i stalk you all constantly, but in a fly in fly out manner ^^;

[TeniBear]

just popping in for some quick belly rubs. i stalk you all constantly, but in a fly in fly out manner ^^;

For me, it's more like belly jiggles at the moment

I really have to get more active in this thread

[dory]

Laney - Every Monday will be easy enough for me to remember..... sorry about m/s returning. I have heard when it returns it's usually not as vicious?

You were right - at my appointment and scan today baby had turned. I had thought so as there were no more kicks to my bladder!

I know what you mean about "thinking about getting a room together". DH and I have been getting lots of stuff but still have yet to set it all up. My excuse is I am waiting for the fur baby to come home and settle in before his whole world changes again. But if I am honest with myself, it's just a sign of my fear.

The locum obs today said if labour starts at 34 weeks and beyond that no steps will be taken to prevent it. That is totally mind blowing for me... imagine not trying to stop labour, as had been the case for me in the past. Blimey this gestation will really need me to change my thinking.

Teagz, Teni - good to have you drop in

I was all up for a big chat, but in my belly buddies thread, one of the girls posted that one of her relatives babies was born extremely premature and didn't survive, and it just took me back to my own experiences. Always the unexpected reminders huh? Actually reading it kind of floored me and I was back experiencing my own grief in the blink of an eye. I need to go be with my memories now. One more sleep til the kitty kat comes home.

[cindee]

had first ultrasound done mummy and baby are both healthy just what i wanted to hear but bp has shown its ugly head very early so had to up my meds, otherwise things are good so far

[AngelLukesmum]

Yay Cindee, congrats on a good 1st scan! Not good news about your BP though sorry to hear that.

Dory, it is horrible when you hear news that has the power to take you back to the darkness I hope you are feeling a bit better today.

Teagz, good to see you, quick as it was lol!

Tenibear, do come and join us

Laney, I hear you on adding another to the mix! Having a toddler and newborn will certainly be interesting!

AFM, I saw my ob yesterday and I am measuring a little ahead so I have updated my ticker. Always nice to fast forward some of the pregnancy! We had a big discussion and booked my stitch placement in for the 7 Sept. I can't believe how fast this pg is going compared to last time! My ob also wants me on rotating ABs this time around which is new as last time I only had some when I was in the hospital on bedrest. This time he wants me to take 5 days worth, have 2 weeks off and then start again, continuing through until about 32 weeks. I start after the stitch goes in and not really looking forward to it as I remember the flagyl from last time and it isn't very nice on the tummy. Have booked my NT scan in 3 weeks time and will see my ob again that same week before the op at 13 weeks. Feels good to have a plan in place for now as once we get past 19 weeks it is a little out of our control as to what might happen...
Have a great weekend girls

[ButterflyForever]

hi all

Laney - hope you feel better soon.

Dory - wow nearly there Hun. That's awful about the premmie not surviving. I have just been through a doula client losing her Bub at 25 weeks, it does bring all the grief back again.

Cindee - great news.

AngelLukesMum - glad you have a plan in place, hope all goes well.


afm - saw the Ob on Wed, all still good. had a quick reassurance scan from the registrar, she tried to hazard a guess at the sex of bubs, I think that was a waste of time, I tried to tell her boys and girls all look pretty much the same at 13 weeks. I will wait until the 18 week scan to find out.
Getting sick of having my appt's in the local cattle market/hospital, it is so busy. I have to walk so far from finding a parking spot to the hossy and then wait on average 2 hours to see the dr, so asked if i could see the Ob's at the smaller hospital up the mountain, Ob said he visits there once a fortnight, and he will see me in his lunch hour I can then park with relative ease, go into a nice waiting room, grab a cuppa and be seen within the about 15 mins, much happier.
As far a MS I am feeling great, seems to have gone, this preg feels different to the others, so it may have a winkie this time after having a run of girls
I was naughty the other day, saw a almost new bassinet and stand in the Op shop, it was so pretty, and after what happened with my daughter, refused to buy anything early again, but it was so reasonably priced ($40) and money going to a good cause (cancer council), that I bought it. A really good friend of mine is going to keep it in storage for me, then if anything goes wrong, I don't have to face it again.
Got my booking in appt next week, unfortunately back down to the cattle market again.

Take care all

[KAM]

How is everyone going? I hope your all well.

cindee - That's great that your first scan went so well and hopefully now that you've upped your meds the bp will start behaving itself.

AngelLukesmum - It sounds like you have a very busy moth ahead of you, know wonder this pregnancy is going so fast for you.

ButterflyForever - That's horrible about the "cattle markets" as you call them, I bet your relieved to be able to see your ob instead, it should make it so much easier for you. It's just a shame there isn't anywhere else you can book in. I hear you about not wanting to set anything up, we didn't set anything up until after 31wks (the time we lost Isabel) this time and DH still had to push me a little. That's nice of your friend to look after your bassinet until you need it.

AFM - Feeling a little guilty this week, I forgot the 1yr anniversary of our 3rd baby's due date , and feeling a little akward about coming back in here considering.

[dory]

Cindee - awesome news. If you don't mind me asking - what is your BP? I was really worried mine would be high especially with the restrictions on my activity levels, but it's been really really good. 125/75 which is higher than it was.... but not too bad for pregnancy. For a while there a few years ago it was 140/90. Yikes.

KAM - oh sweetie - don't guilt yourself out. I decided that after this year, I wasn't going to focus on EDD's as I have a few to keep track of. As well as the actual angel-versary and EDD's then I would be spending 7 months out of every 12 being potentially plunged back into active grief. So next year I've decided it's only the angel-versaries I will direct my energies into. I will see how I go. I don't this you disrespect your angels by not focusing on each and every significant date .... so please don't be too hard on yourself for being human. But in a way I do know how you feel. I completely missed a special anniversary of a date of death this year for someone very close to me and it did play on my mind for a while.

Butterfly - the less stress you can have the better! Good to see that the Obs was willing to accommodate you - I think that says loads. I was talking to a friend today and she had her antenatal appointments at the hossy, with similar experiences to what you describe as well as it coininciding with the show and there being no parking available whatsoever. She said it really used to make her more anxious than she preferred. I think it's awesome that you felt you wanted to get the bassinette and even better that you gave yourself permission to do it. Well done. I have been getting little things for bubs during this pregnancy, but yesterday DH and I collected the cot we'd bought 3 weeks ago and it had come in. Of course when we did I had a little cry, but at the same time I was really excited. And today, we with the help of the fur babies put up the bassinette. Although then half disassembled it so I could wash the parts that are washable. LOL. But these are huge steps for me. I wish I'd given myself permission to do some of the bigger stuff earlier, but to be honest, it didn't feel right any earlier.

It must be hard for you when those you are working so closely with experience the death of their baby... I don't know how you do it.... manage to help them whilst being back admist your own pain.

A winkle huh?

Laney - blah to m/s.... hope you are surviving. Must be hard with Grayson around needing attention. Not many sleeps til your next scan.... be sure to jump on quick and let us know..

AFM - the fur babies are reunited. One had some trouble adjusting - hissing, growling, chuffing and getting so anxious he made himself vomit ( lots of times), poor little mite. But with some patience and diligence the stress levels have settled and they all seem to be settling in. Not yet back to their old routines yet, but I think they are doing quite well. And the cat who has been away is very snuggly, but for now, that suits us both.

I must have been obviously affected the other day as I called my mum and she kept telling me I sounded upset and not my usual self. But, I came through and the darkness wasn't anywhere near as dark as I remember it.

AngelLuke'sMum - flagyl's an antibiotic right? Can you talk to your Dr about having a different one given the effect flagyl has had on you in the past? God news you've got a date for your stitch. I imagine that will give you a lot more peace of mind. 7 Sept is not that far away!

[jlk]

Hey all, just popping in to see how everyone is going

[Laney]

Hi Ladies,

Dory, It still stops me in my tracks whenever I hear about someone losing a baby. My Dh's cousin just had to have a c-section at 26 weeks due to high blood pressure. Bub is fortunately doing very well after 3 weeks. He was only 1 pound 5 ounces when he was born. Hearing the news that he was born so early made me very emotional.
I hope your fur baby is back in a nice routine and getting very spoiled.

Kam, I too have trouble remembering due dates. I focus more on the days that we lost our babies. Big hugs

ButterflyForever, yay for buying baby stuff! I have started to buy a few things here and there. It feels good to buy it but scary. I am afraid to buy too much but when it is a great deal....

AngelLukesmum, flagyl is awful! I was on it for a few days while pregnant with Shelby. I was soooo sick from it. I hope it is a little bit more kind to you. Sounds lie you have a nice plan in place for the next few weeks. They sure are going to fly by.

AFM, Had my scan today and bub is looking good. He is up to 2 pounds now.
DH and I went shopping the other night and I bought a few little sleepers for bub. It felt good to finally buy something new for him.

[dory]

Laney - awesome news about your scan! Furbabies are much more settled and snuggley with each other now.... one is curled up with me now as I type. It's so nice to have them all back. Glad you bought some things for this bubs.... good to give yourself that permission!

Just back from the physio about my pregnancy induced carpal tunnel - have some little exercies to do and no "braces" ( can't think of the other word for them) needed.

Belly rubs.

[jlk]

Hey all, just popping in to see how everyone is going, all is well here, Tehya is just an angel, I still feel like its all a dream....