thread: Pregnancy after Stillbirth/Recurrent Miscarriage or Late Loss March/April 2010

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  1. #1
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    Oct 2008
    Sydney
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    Yay Cindee, congrats on a good 1st scan! Not good news about your BP though sorry to hear that.

    Dory, it is horrible when you hear news that has the power to take you back to the darkness I hope you are feeling a bit better today.

    Teagz, good to see you, quick as it was lol!

    Tenibear, do come and join us

    Laney, I hear you on adding another to the mix! Having a toddler and newborn will certainly be interesting!

    AFM, I saw my ob yesterday and I am measuring a little ahead so I have updated my ticker. Always nice to fast forward some of the pregnancy! We had a big discussion and booked my stitch placement in for the 7 Sept. I can't believe how fast this pg is going compared to last time! My ob also wants me on rotating ABs this time around which is new as last time I only had some when I was in the hospital on bedrest. This time he wants me to take 5 days worth, have 2 weeks off and then start again, continuing through until about 32 weeks. I start after the stitch goes in and not really looking forward to it as I remember the flagyl from last time and it isn't very nice on the tummy. Have booked my NT scan in 3 weeks time and will see my ob again that same week before the op at 13 weeks. Feels good to have a plan in place for now as once we get past 19 weeks it is a little out of our control as to what might happen...
    Have a great weekend girls

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    Sep 2009
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    hi all

    Laney - hope you feel better soon.

    Dory - wow nearly there Hun. That's awful about the premmie not surviving. I have just been through a doula client losing her Bub at 25 weeks, it does bring all the grief back again.

    Cindee - great news.

    AngelLukesMum - glad you have a plan in place, hope all goes well.


    afm - saw the Ob on Wed, all still good. had a quick reassurance scan from the registrar, she tried to hazard a guess at the sex of bubs, I think that was a waste of time, I tried to tell her boys and girls all look pretty much the same at 13 weeks. I will wait until the 18 week scan to find out.
    Getting sick of having my appt's in the local cattle market/hospital, it is so busy. I have to walk so far from finding a parking spot to the hossy and then wait on average 2 hours to see the dr, so asked if i could see the Ob's at the smaller hospital up the mountain, Ob said he visits there once a fortnight, and he will see me in his lunch hour I can then park with relative ease, go into a nice waiting room, grab a cuppa and be seen within the about 15 mins, much happier.
    As far a MS I am feeling great, seems to have gone, this preg feels different to the others, so it may have a winkie this time after having a run of girls
    I was naughty the other day, saw a almost new bassinet and stand in the Op shop, it was so pretty, and after what happened with my daughter, refused to buy anything early again, but it was so reasonably priced ($40) and money going to a good cause (cancer council), that I bought it. A really good friend of mine is going to keep it in storage for me, then if anything goes wrong, I don't have to face it again.
    Got my booking in appt next week, unfortunately back down to the cattle market again.

    Take care all

  3. #3
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    Feb 2009
    N.S.W.
    73

    How is everyone going? I hope your all well.

    cindee - That's great that your first scan went so well and hopefully now that you've upped your meds the bp will start behaving itself.

    AngelLukesmum - It sounds like you have a very busy moth ahead of you, know wonder this pregnancy is going so fast for you.

    ButterflyForever - That's horrible about the "cattle markets" as you call them, I bet your relieved to be able to see your ob instead, it should make it so much easier for you. It's just a shame there isn't anywhere else you can book in. I hear you about not wanting to set anything up, we didn't set anything up until after 31wks (the time we lost Isabel) this time and DH still had to push me a little. That's nice of your friend to look after your bassinet until you need it.

    AFM - Feeling a little guilty this week, I forgot the 1yr anniversary of our 3rd baby's due date , and feeling a little akward about coming back in here considering.

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    Aug 2009
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    Cindee - awesome news. If you don't mind me asking - what is your BP? I was really worried mine would be high especially with the restrictions on my activity levels, but it's been really really good. 125/75 which is higher than it was.... but not too bad for pregnancy. For a while there a few years ago it was 140/90. Yikes.

    KAM - oh sweetie - don't guilt yourself out. I decided that after this year, I wasn't going to focus on EDD's as I have a few to keep track of. As well as the actual angel-versary and EDD's then I would be spending 7 months out of every 12 being potentially plunged back into active grief. So next year I've decided it's only the angel-versaries I will direct my energies into. I will see how I go. I don't this you disrespect your angels by not focusing on each and every significant date .... so please don't be too hard on yourself for being human. But in a way I do know how you feel. I completely missed a special anniversary of a date of death this year for someone very close to me and it did play on my mind for a while.

    Butterfly - the less stress you can have the better! Good to see that the Obs was willing to accommodate you - I think that says loads. I was talking to a friend today and she had her antenatal appointments at the hossy, with similar experiences to what you describe as well as it coininciding with the show and there being no parking available whatsoever. She said it really used to make her more anxious than she preferred. I think it's awesome that you felt you wanted to get the bassinette and even better that you gave yourself permission to do it. Well done. I have been getting little things for bubs during this pregnancy, but yesterday DH and I collected the cot we'd bought 3 weeks ago and it had come in. Of course when we did I had a little cry, but at the same time I was really excited. And today, we with the help of the fur babies put up the bassinette. Although then half disassembled it so I could wash the parts that are washable. LOL. But these are huge steps for me. I wish I'd given myself permission to do some of the bigger stuff earlier, but to be honest, it didn't feel right any earlier.

    It must be hard for you when those you are working so closely with experience the death of their baby... I don't know how you do it.... manage to help them whilst being back admist your own pain.

    A winkle huh?

    Laney - blah to m/s.... hope you are surviving. Must be hard with Grayson around needing attention. Not many sleeps til your next scan.... be sure to jump on quick and let us know..

    AFM - the fur babies are reunited. One had some trouble adjusting - hissing, growling, chuffing and getting so anxious he made himself vomit ( lots of times), poor little mite. But with some patience and diligence the stress levels have settled and they all seem to be settling in. Not yet back to their old routines yet, but I think they are doing quite well. And the cat who has been away is very snuggly, but for now, that suits us both.

    I must have been obviously affected the other day as I called my mum and she kept telling me I sounded upset and not my usual self. But, I came through and the darkness wasn't anywhere near as dark as I remember it.

    AngelLuke'sMum - flagyl's an antibiotic right? Can you talk to your Dr about having a different one given the effect flagyl has had on you in the past? God news you've got a date for your stitch. I imagine that will give you a lot more peace of mind. 7 Sept is not that far away!

  5. #5
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    Feb 2005
    NSW/VIC Border
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    Hey all, just popping in to see how everyone is going

  6. #6
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    Jan 2008
    Pittsburgh, PA
    469

    Hi Ladies,

    Dory, It still stops me in my tracks whenever I hear about someone losing a baby. My Dh's cousin just had to have a c-section at 26 weeks due to high blood pressure. Bub is fortunately doing very well after 3 weeks. He was only 1 pound 5 ounces when he was born. Hearing the news that he was born so early made me very emotional.
    I hope your fur baby is back in a nice routine and getting very spoiled.

    Kam, I too have trouble remembering due dates. I focus more on the days that we lost our babies. Big hugs

    ButterflyForever, yay for buying baby stuff! I have started to buy a few things here and there. It feels good to buy it but scary. I am afraid to buy too much but when it is a great deal....

    AngelLukesmum, flagyl is awful! I was on it for a few days while pregnant with Shelby. I was soooo sick from it. I hope it is a little bit more kind to you. Sounds lie you have a nice plan in place for the next few weeks. They sure are going to fly by.

    AFM, Had my scan today and bub is looking good. He is up to 2 pounds now.
    DH and I went shopping the other night and I bought a few little sleepers for bub. It felt good to finally buy something new for him.

  7. #7
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    Aug 2009
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    Laney - awesome news about your scan! Furbabies are much more settled and snuggley with each other now.... one is curled up with me now as I type. It's so nice to have them all back. Glad you bought some things for this bubs.... good to give yourself that permission!

    Just back from the physio about my pregnancy induced carpal tunnel - have some little exercies to do and no "braces" ( can't think of the other word for them) needed.

    Belly rubs.

  8. #8
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    Oct 2007
    taree
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    Cindee - awesome news. If you don't mind me asking - what is your BP? I was really worried mine would be high especially with the restrictions on my activity levels, but it's been really really good. 125/75 which is higher than it was.... but not too bad for pregnancy. For a while there a few years ago it was 140/90. Yikes.

    KAM - oh sweetie - don't guilt yourself out. I decided that after this year, I wasn't going to focus on EDD's as I have a few to keep track of. As well as the actual angel-versary and EDD's then I would be spending 7 months out of every 12 being potentially plunged back into active grief. So next year I've decided it's only the angel-versaries I will direct my energies into. I will see how I go. I don't this you disrespect your angels by not focusing on each and every significant date .... so please don't be too hard on yourself for being human. But in a way I do know how you feel. I completely missed a special anniversary of a date of death this year for someone very close to me and it did play on my mind for a while.

    Butterfly - the less stress you can have the better! Good to see that the Obs was willing to accommodate you - I think that says loads. I was talking to a friend today and she had her antenatal appointments at the hossy, with similar experiences to what you describe as well as it coininciding with the show and there being no parking available whatsoever. She said it really used to make her more anxious than she preferred. I think it's awesome that you felt you wanted to get the bassinette and even better that you gave yourself permission to do it. Well done. I have been getting little things for bubs during this pregnancy, but yesterday DH and I collected the cot we'd bought 3 weeks ago and it had come in. Of course when we did I had a little cry, but at the same time I was really excited. And today, we with the help of the fur babies put up the bassinette. Although then half disassembled it so I could wash the parts that are washable. LOL. But these are huge steps for me. I wish I'd given myself permission to do some of the bigger stuff earlier, but to be honest, it didn't feel right any earlier.

    It must be hard for you when those you are working so closely with experience the death of their baby... I don't know how you do it.... manage to help them whilst being back admist your own pain.

    A winkle huh?

    Laney - blah to m/s.... hope you are surviving. Must be hard with Grayson around needing attention. Not many sleeps til your next scan.... be sure to jump on quick and let us know..

    AFM - the fur babies are reunited. One had some trouble adjusting - hissing, growling, chuffing and getting so anxious he made himself vomit ( lots of times), poor little mite. But with some patience and diligence the stress levels have settled and they all seem to be settling in. Not yet back to their old routines yet, but I think they are doing quite well. And the cat who has been away is very snuggly, but for now, that suits us both.

    I must have been obviously affected the other day as I called my mum and she kept telling me I sounded upset and not my usual self. But, I came through and the darkness wasn't anywhere near as dark as I remember it.

    AngelLuke'sMum - flagyl's an antibiotic right? Can you talk to your Dr about having a different one given the effect flagyl has had on you in the past? God news you've got a date for your stitch. I imagine that will give you a lot more peace of mind. 7 Sept is not that far away!




    Bp is fluctuating between 160/100 - 175/112 it goes pretty high

  9. #9
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    Jan 2008
    Pittsburgh, PA
    469

    cindee, I can't believe how high your BP is already! I thought that it was supposed to drop a bit in early pregnancy? Mine drops to 100/60 and pretty much stays that way until the last couple of weeks. I hope your doctors can get it under control.

    jlk, I still feel like I am dreaming when I look at Grayson. So happy for you.

    AngelLukesmum, I know exactly what you mean about the wait between scans. My wait is only a week and it is still hard. Bub does wiggle a lot so it helps a bit.

    baby Ricky is doing okay, lots of ups and downs. He has a couple of good days and then he will have a couple of not so good days. I feel like I am bothering them but I do check up on him every couple of days. I wish there was more that I could do to help them through such a tough time.

    dory, I get carpal tunnel while pregnant as well. It never gets really bad for me, just a bit annoying.

    Hi to everyone else!

    Not much going on here. I am starting to struggle a bit to keep up with Grayson, shopping, house cleaning, and doctor visits. We are having a very hot and humid summer and it is not being very kind to me. I know that I can get through these next 3 months with a smile!!
    DH and I might be moving my office this weekend to make room for bub. The office needs to be painted before we can start another baby room. It is exciting and scary to be thinking about a room already!

  10. #10
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    Jan 2008
    Pittsburgh, PA
    469

    Hi Ladies, It has become a bit quiet in here again!
    I had my 10th ultrasound yesterday and bub is still looking good. I am just now starting to relax a bit. I don't use the HB doppler much anymore. He kicks enough that I know he is okay.
    We did start the process of moving the office. It is not going to be easy to find a new home for all of the junk that has accumulated in there. At least it is started! I am getting excited about painting and buying more little blue things finally.

    Dory, I just saw your ticker! 35 Weeks!