Pregnancy after Stillbirth/Recurrent Miscarriage or Late Loss March/April 2010

Dory, I hope everything is OK with your tests. It's really good that you're under such diligent observant eyes!! Don't worry about your mum not getting too excited hearing bub's HB. My mum was the same, and then after Cam was born she told me that she was STILL worried to the end that something would go wrong (w/o telling me of course as that would just freak me out!). When Cameron was born she was over the moon and back!!
I'm sooooooooo excited about your ticker hun, 35 weeks!! Woo hoo!!!!!!! So so proud of you darling, not long to go now!!!

Big hello to Laney, Jo, ButterflyForever and anyone else I missed. Glad that everyone is doing well!

Lots of hugs
B xxx.

Beata - thanks! I think that might be the case.... all good with my BP today... still have some of the other symptoms though... mostly annoyingly a headache. Oh well. I am a lot more crampy since Tues, so I am hoping bubs stays inside for another 2 weeks, so I can make September..... Love the new photo of Cam.

Could it be BH Dory????? Sometimes mine felt like period cramps. Fingers and toes crossed for bub to stay put for another 2 weeks at least. Hope your headache goes away soon hun, I get them all the time and sometimes I'm sooooo over it!!! xxxxx

B - I am not too worried about them, I have had them for ages, just an increase in the crampiness but not regular enough and not really increasing in intensity or frequency.... I guess I was just feeling glum with all the unusual stuff buzzing around... headache gone this evening... I don't normally get headaches at all, so to have one is unusual. Hey - I just noticed your sig.... hilarious Me OMG 40.....

Wow Dory, Cant beleive how close you are now :)

Dory, I normally do not get headaches either. I get them on and off during pregnancy. I think that it is pretty normal. I have also been getting cramps from time to time. They have been getting more frequent over the past couple of weeks :( I hope everything looked good when you went to visit the doctor. You are almost there!!!

I have my growth scan tomorrow afternoon. I have my fingers crossed that bub is still measuring big!

Laney - all seems ok! Yippee. I am having a petrified day but seem to be working through it now. Can't wait for you to post after your scan.....

JLK - yes so close but so far.... Is that a new photo of Teyha? She is just beautiful.

Hey ladies, sorry have been quiet lately - not much interesting to report! I have my NT blood tests this week and my scan next week. It has been a while now between scans so I am really starting to feel the need for some reassurance... its hard at this point when its still too early for movement to help put your mind at ease! 9 days to go...

Laney, hope your scan went/goes well today.

Dory, 36 weeks WOW!! :clap: Oh and in regards to your question about the epi-no, I can't help you with that. I did do the "stretching" :redface::redface: exercises they recommend but not sure if it helped or not as I still needed a couple of stitches.

Hi to all you other lovely ladies, hope everything is going well with everyone x

AngelLukesum - I so understand where you are coming from.... it is such a long time between scans and no reassurance of baby moving... I am uncomfortable about the whole idea of the manual massage and the epi no. So I can understand your blushing smiley faces.

Laney- thinking of you.

Hi to everyone else. I seem to have won a mini battle with my demons for the moment. What a relief. Hope you're well.

AngelLukesmum, only 9 days to wait. I will be thinking of you :)

dory, glad everything went well at your Ob appt. Do you have a day yet when thay will be taking out your stitch?

Hi to everyone else!

My ultrasound went well. bub is still in the 65th percentile!!!! :) We will just keep watching and make sure that he continues to grow well. I have to get my GD test at some point this week. I am not looking forward to it. I have a hard time drinking the sugar drink and keeping it down :(

Laney - good news about bubs.... our little bundle is 65th percentile too. It's a bugger you have trouble drinking the glucose drink and keeping it down. Makes it something to dread. If it comes up again, do you have to drink more? When I had an upper GI series ( aka barium meal... I know which one sounds better) I was told whatever came out had to be put back in. Urgh. Luckily for me it didn't, but when they take the series of x rays after the contrast has been ingested, the bench is moved around a lot and it's very uncomfortable... so much so I thought I would have to replenish. Fortunately I don't find the glucose drinks too bad. I've had 3 (glucose tol tests) this year, so I am lucky I am not affected.

I don't have a date yet, for the magical stitch to be removed, but my obs come back from holidays Monday and if bubs is still snug we'll set a date. That's the weird thing for me at the mo, if I go into labour, I have to go to the hossy straight away so the stitch can be dealt with.... so I am a little hyper vigilant about possible labour signs. I felt nauseated early this morning and kept thinking, is this labour? Pretty much as I have been doing the whole preg, but it's even more intense now.

Good luck with your GD test. I hope you come through ok.

I'm hiding away at the moment still reading just don't gave the emotinal energy to post.. Just have to say OMG dory you are almost there!! You have been such an inspiration to me through the last 11 or so months I have been on bb. The way you have delt with everything is awesome!! I can't beleive that uou are going to be holding you beautiful little bub so soon!! Anyway just wanted you to know how proud I am of you xxxxxx

Mo4 - Geez I ahve missed you. So glad you posted... and thanks for your words of encouragement. You have helped me too. I just love you are 26 weeks and under 100 to go.... take care of yourself and looking forward to seeing some more of you when you are up to it.

mo4, the last post I read from you sounded so positive. It is very tough but you are doing great! I hope you are able to post more soon. :hug:

dory, I don't know what it is about that GD drink. It is awful! It almost came up the last 2 times I have had to drink it. If it comes up I have to drink another full cup and start over! Barium sounds lovely too ;)
When I went in for my c-section with Grayson I was told that I was having strong and regular contractions. I didn't feel a thing yet! I guess you just never know. Can't wait to find out your big date!!!

Hi girls
Just logging in quickly before I wake DD up to begin the day and get ready for childcare and work.
Only 3 more sleeps till my NT scan!! Am really, really impatient now to reach Thursday and get some reassurance that all is going along okay. I even tried to use my angelsounds monitor last night but of course its still too early to hear anything :rolleyes: Am curious too to see where my placenta is sitting - I have always had it at the front so it would be nice to have one at the back this time around so I possibly get to feel the movement earlier...
Sorry, just had to get all that out!

Dory, you must be almost 37 weeks now. WOW!! Do you have a date yet for the stitch removal?

Laney, hope your Monday scan goes well, just like all the others have :)

Hi to everyone else. Better get moving. DD always wants to sleep in on the 1 day a week she needs to be up early & I hate waking my precious girl up. Have a good Monday ladies x

Jo - no date yet, will talk to the obs about it when I see him on Thurs ... or is it Fri this week? Will let you know when I have a date. My mum reckons baby will be born soon after the stitch is removed. I don't have any sense of when. Baby's head is not engaged but I don't know how long it takes to become engaged and how to classify myself. Not my first labour but the first to this gestation... so I think I will have to ask. As I've read baby's head may not engage until quite late for subsequent pregnancies. I still can't believe that gestation ( almost 37 weeks) applies to me, nor that my baby bump is so big. It's actually pretty awesome.

Good luck. with your NT scan. I can understand your impatience... I have my fingers crossed for you too - for a high posterior placenta.

Is DD grumpy when you wake her? It's almost Murphy's law isn't it... sleeping in on the one day she has to get going?

Laney - good luck today ( it's Monday where I am..... although I probably will be sound asleep when you are actually off to have your scan)

Dory, I don't think Kaitlyn engaged till the end either; from memory the week before my stitch came out my ob card showed 3/5 for her & my ob wasnt sure she would be low enough to induce me the next week. I'm still not sure whether she was completely engaged when he did induce me but apparently I was completely effaced and 2cm dilated with the stitch the only thing holding her in so he was happy to induce me after all. Not that he had much choice on that with my stitch embedded and me wanting to try and avoid an epidural if possible; inducing was the only way he could reach the stitch to get it cut! I hope your stitch isn't embedded and it comes out easy for you :pray:
Kaitlyn isn't too grumpy when I wake her; I just feel bad! She ended up waking up herself just after I logged off this morning so I didn't have to worry about it after all. She is getting used to her 1 day of childcare a week which is good. I work 5 days a fortnight for now and my MIL comes over to care for her the days she isn't in cc so its a nice balance.
I'll be back Thursday to let you girls know how I go! Might go to bed soon so it can be 1 day less to go lol ;)

Hi all - just a quick one from me to say I missed you all dreadfully and STILL no action here.... after the stitch came out last Thursday the BHC's have settled a lot and dare I say it I miss them. The bump continues to expand and I love it. Take care and belly rubs.

Something weird has happened here - looks like half our posts have disappeared and I wasnt able to log on for a couple of days. Anyone else have that prob?
So glad though to see I didnt miss any exciting news from you Dory; I was worried! Wouldn't it just be ironic if you ended up going overdue and having to be induced :D

Nothing to report here - have my 1st cervix scan next Tuesday and have recovered well from my stitch surgery last week.

wow, i thought for sure that after not being able to get in to BB for a while that you would have had that bub Dory, lol

dory, I was worried that missed your announcement as well :) I hate when bellybelly acts up! Enjoy the last few days of feeling bub wiggle around in there. I missed being pregnant as soon as Grayson was out. You now have a little extra time to get the house ready too.

jo, good luck with your scan on Tuesday. How have you been feeling?

AFM, I do not have GD! I am really happy about that. My numbers looked great! I had my scan yesterday and bub is looking very large :)

Laney - AWESOME!!!! news about not having GD....

Jo - glad you've recovered from the stitch and GL for your next scan....

Mo4 - how are you doing?

No news here. LOL - although I am starving today... wonder if that means something?

Hi girls
Dory, hope those hunger pains meant something! Do you have someone who can post your big news or will we have to wait till you are home from hospital for your announcement? Cause we're all eager you know... ;)
I am feeling a bit down today - hopped on the news on the net and saw the coverage of the funeral for the policeman in Sydney today and has made me sad :( My DH is a detective with the police and is at the funeral. I know it doesnt happen very often (cops being killed on duty) but still...I don't like the reminder that it could be a knock on my door one day.
Damn pregnancy hormones not helping lol!
Have my cervix scan next Tuesday and once again, am starting to get that anxiety leading up. I think I am feeling flutters lately but not strong enough to be confident, my doppler is still useless due to my placenta, and I just need to see bubs happy and healthy on the screen to really feel reassured. I know you girls know what I mean...

Hold that thought - just pulled out the doppler and I heard bubs heartbeat! :dance: Definitely wasn't mine as I had my finger on my pulse and it was a lot faster than mine. Yay, now I can relax and look forward to Tuesday :)

Jo - good work on hearing bubs heartbeat - it really is a divine sound. Good luck with your measurements - as reassuring as it is to get the result, the process is really nerve wracking. I have walked in your shoes... all I can say is sending big hugs your way....

I don't think I am going to go any time soon - braxton hicks have all but stopped - only 2-3 a day now, at the appointment today bubs was no where near even looking like being engaged and was floating freely around in there having a good time. Had a good chat today with the Obs about my fears of loss and concerns about being overdue. He is not keen at all for me to go overdue and he seems concerned about the complications of baby being post mature, given that he's pretty certain my dates are accurate, as am I. So have booked, tentatively, a caesarean for next Thursday, but have an appointment Tuesday next week to see how things are going.

My preference is not to have a caesarean, but we'll just see how things are going, because I do think that if I go much beyond my due date it will do my head in and I won't cope. He has ruled out induction, at least based on the examination today ( but that may change), as it's just far too dangerous, so that leaves waiting or caesar. I have realised as my "due date" draws closer that in fact I have very little confidence in my body to do the right thing by baby, and get baby here safely. I say that, because at ante-natal classes the midwife was talking about "our bodies knowing what to do" and being "overdue ie 40-42 weeks was normal/term" and "we should "just let our bodies do their own thing" and it's weird, then I agreed, but I can't agree now. It didn't really dawn on me until today that I don't in fact have that confidence in my body at all, and the Obs, bless him, does understand that, plus all the attendant fears.

So today, unexpectedly, I am doing it much tough. Luckily the cats seem to sense that and have been extra snuggly, bless them.

Hiya Laney! Thinking of you and your active Grayson - how is he?

A little ironic isn't it Dory, that had all of us just "let our body do their own thing", none of us would be where we are today... some of us lucky enough to already have our earth angels in our arms with new ones on the way, and others like yourself on the verge of meeting your little blessing. Intervention is what has gotten us all here today so of course it is a little hard to truly trust our bodies to "do the right thing"... thank god for supportive ob's and modern medicine lol.
Hugs to you xx

Hi girls,

Looks like I'm not the only one here thinking I'm going mad with the belly site doing silly buggers on me!!!! Have tried to get on for days with no success.

Dory, I was so scared I was going to miss your bub being born!!!! Ahhhh, shouldn't have worried, he/she is obviously very happy in there! lol. I agree with you not going too much over your due date. I almost did my head in waiting for my 38 week c/s! I remember asking my OB from 35 weeks to take him out :o I just wanted him out safely. It's so f-ing sad that we get so anxious about the birth, after what we've been through, it's just so not fair that we can't experience those feeling of excitement and be so carefree about it all. Oh well, it certainly sounds like you have a very caring and understanding OB hun. I hope bub decides to come by him/her self, but if c/s is on the cards don't be afraid hun, it's really not that bad. A the end you get to hold you gorgeous bundle of love and joy! Will be stalking you (as I am anyway! lol).

Jo, glad all is well at your end! So sad about the policeman that got shot. I feel for his family and friends. How awful to go so young :( Woo hoo for that beautiful heart beat! I used to always feel so good after I used my doppler and heard it during the quiet times!

Laney, 31 weeks! Time is whizzing by (is that a word???? :shakehead:). Glad to hear you don't have GD, one less thing to worry about!

Hi to Samcougar, mummyof4, jlk, and everyone else!

Today wee man is 6 months old!!!! So excited! We went to the last gymbaroo class today, it was so sad :( Looks like China is definitely on the cards, I am in total denial. DF will be leaving in 2 weeks, I think I will go in 4. It won't hit me until I start packing.....Oh, I went to see my FS and he was very confident that I won't have any probs with another cycle of IVF. He said that in my last cycle I was on a very low dose of the drugs and they have collected an excellent number of mature eggs. He also said that they were able to fertilise most of them and to have gotten pg twice from the cycle was amazing, so he was very positive about the whole thing. I need more convincing though :rolleyes: He sent me for a BT to establish my egg reserve. If it is normal to high, he said I have 6 to 12 months to do another cycle with no probs. If the reserve is low, we need to get moving asap. I get the results in 2 weeks. Wish me luck girls!!

B xxx

dory, I had a c-section due to my fears. I could not have an early induction because Grayson's head was still floating around very high. He couldn't make up his mind if he wanted to be head or feet first either. The c-section was easier for me emotionally as well.
I was up and taking a shower the next night. I felt good after 2 weeks and back to myself in 4 weeks. It wasn't too bad but a "normal" birth most likely would have been easier to recover from. The funny thing was that on the day of my c-section I was having strong contractions and Grayson was engaged. (2 days after last ob visit) :shakehead: Things can change very quickly.

beata, Good luck with your blood test results. Are we keeping our fingers crossed that you need to start right away or that you have 6 to 12 months? :)

jo, yay for home dopplars! I just stopped using mine a few weeks ago. Bub is finally active enough to calm most of my fears.

Dory, anything yet? Do you have an appt. to see your doctor before your c-section date?

Laney - how did your scan go? I saw the obs this morning and then went to the hossy to do some pre admission forms. I don't seem him again til Thurs... 2 sleeps ... maybe this one will be like Grayson and make a decision very soon... but if not IN 2 SLEEPS we get to meet our precious bundle. I guess too after being on bed rest I was hoping my recovery would be quicker if no intervention.... but it's not just about me huh? I probably won't care once bubs is here, as it will just happen. Are you VBAC'ing or Casearing this time around.... 31, almost 32 weeks is awesome.

Jo - you are so so very right. I just didn't realise that I had such a fantasy of a vaginal birth - but it was linked to my angels.

Beata - where has that time gone? 6 months! Yay Cam, as cute as ever. Oh bugger about China - where abouts? I had yummy yum cha on the weekend.... And awesome news about your next cycle.... that is so reassuring. In a way I am so very glad to get to 40 weeks as I got every week of pregnancy, but it did get harder as the numbers got bigger... but no more of this pregnancy caper this time for me. The time is right.

dory - I cant wait to hear your announcement :)

Laney - how you going hun?

Hi girls

Just popping in quickly to wish you all the best for Thursday Dory! I am going away tomorrow till Saturday so I will probably miss your news if you post before then. I can't, can't wait to hear your little darling has arrived safe and sound! Honestly it won't matter how they get here, when you have them warm, pink and squirming in your arms, all of this long and stressful pregnancy will seem like a distant memory.

Had my CL measured today and my cervix is looking great atm, nice and long and closed which is what we like to see. My changes never happen till after 19 weeks anyway but still nice to know we are starting out with a good base. Bubs is growing beautifully, wriggling around like crazy and everything seems to be where it should be. We got some 4D shots too which are a little alien-like at this stage, but still cute!

Belly rubs to you all xx

Jo - thanks - It is good to have a long baseline... mine actually went up.. even when measured by the maternal fetal medicine specalist. I was totally blown away as I never expected that. Hopefully yours does the same? Enjoy your time away and take care of yourself and your little bundle inside and outside ( DD).

dory, good luck on Thursday. Can't wait to read your news.
I will be having another c-section. It is just "easier" for me. I told my doctor that I would be a stressed out emotional mess if I had a vaginal birth. I think in my mind there is a connection between vaginal birth and not bringing bub home :(

jo, great news about your CL. How are you feeling being so close to that 19 week mark?

jlk, I am doing okay. Thanks for asking. I am starting to worry more and more now that we are getting close. Bub wasn't moving as much as the doctor would have liked at the ultrasound on Monday :( He has been moving well at home so I wasn't too worried. I guess he can't wiggle all the time.

just quickly incase i dont get back in... Good luck for tomorrow Dory! i cant wait to hear about your squirming, wriggling pink little bundle!!
YOU ARE HAVING A BABY..... TOMORROW!!!! wow!! lol

Hi all

Haven't been on here for ages, just wanted to wish Dory the best of luck tomorrow.

Angel lukes Mum - good news on the cervix length.

afm - had my 20 week scan last Friday, Bub is good, measuring about 4 days ahead, they put my EDD as the 4th Feb, I have is as the 8th. So will keep it as is anyway.
Decided to keep the sex of Bubs a surprise for the kids, they are so exited discussing what it is going to be. I thought if I told anyone, then they will slip up in front of the kids and let the cat out of the bag.
The depressing news from the scan is that my c-section scar is really thin, so I will be very closely monitored now, may be in hospital early in preg on bedrest and will deliver early, so definitely looks like this Bub will be a premmie.
Upset about the scar because all was looking so well until now. Had a scan at 15 weeks, then at 17 weeks (when the Ob said all was so good that he didn't need to see me so often) then had the emergency scan at 19 weeks when I fell over, the sonographer never even mentioned a problem then.
Just having to try and take it easy at the moment, that is easier said than done with 4 kids at home.
Sorry for the down and depressing post, got another scan tomorrow, so will pop back and say hi then.

take care all

Its Thursday!!!! Good luck Dory, cant wait to hear the news :)

Good luck today Dory... I'm so excited for you, can't wait to see your BA.

Dory, thinking of you on this very special day hun!!!!!! Good luck and hope all goes smoothly. Can't wait to hear your BA as well!!!!!!! Bring it on!!!!!!! Can't wait to hear all about you, little bubbie xxxxxx

Love and big hugs,
B xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sorry I'm not too active in here :redface: I'm the same in my belly buddies group too, so it's not just you guys scaring me off :p
Aaanyway, I just wanted to share a little thought I just had in my buddies group that I can't put there... Someone mentioned that we're almost halfway there. I'm not thinking like that. I keep thinking "as soon as I hit 20 weeks, if I lose the baby it's another stillbirth." It just keeps happening - yeah, I am pretty confident that I'll get to take Cookie home at the end of this. But I'm almost resigned to thinking I'll lose him/her too. Not upset about it, mind, it's just like a fact type thing. Augh, hard to explain!