Pregnancy after Stillbirth/Recurrent Miscarriage or Late Loss March/April 2010

My doctor did call me back after he talked to the MFM doctor at the office (which took a while). I guess the nuchal fold should not measure over 5mm and bub's was almost 7mm. There was also some fluid build up in both kidneys. Both could be nothing or they could be something. The doctor said that with my blood work he doesn't feel the need to do any invasive testing. I will have everything remeasured in 4 weeks and will go from there. It sounds like it is most likely nothing, I can't help but worry. The good news is that bub is kicking and a great size.

SB, I really can't believe you are still holding on! I hope that having your mom around has been keeping you calm and from demanding that DD be taken out right now! Is nanna staying to help out after DD is born?
I guess the soft markers are things that are usually nothing but can also be something genetic.

butterfly, great news hun! Love those 4D pics!

dory, look at your ticker! You are really moving right along! :hug: anniversaries are tough, I never know what to do on those days.

morning ladies, sorry for no personals but i am just popping in for Starbright, her little girl didn't hold out much longer, Kaleisha Lee was born yesterday the 2nd july at 1.37pm weighing a healthy 3070 grams, she apparently has loads of hair, and is the image of her big brother! Congratulations SB, such wonderful news, i have tears in my eyes writing this, you did it girl, and with not too much hassle from that crazy lady!

SB, congratulations! I have been checking here and facebook for 2 days! I can't wait to see some pics.

Thanks klee :)

Hi all- still feeling a litte sore- so just a quickie to say thanks for all the congrats and there are some piccies in the gallery here of Lil Kaleisha Lee...

I will try to come back when i am a bit more with it- fo rnow belly rubs to all xoxoxoxox

Oh and a quick p.s........ I had a live baby with an anterior placenta!!! Woot woot!!!! :) :) :) :)

CONGRATULATIONS Starbright!!!! Well done hun, I had a lookie at your pics and Kaleisha is just beautiful! And lots of hair, hehehe.

Enjoy your babymoon sweets!

All my love and big hugs

B xxxx

Congratulations!!! SB, she is just beautiful.

Hi everyone, :hello:

Congratulations Starbright your little girl is just beautiful!!

I thought it was about time i joined this thread i am currently 7 weeks and 5 days pg and due on the 16th of Febuary. We have been tcc for about 9 months and finaly got our BFP. Our little man Riley was Stillborn on the 26th March 2009 and the Doctors couldn't give us a reason why, which makes me so nerveous about this pregnancy.
:bellyrubs: for everyone

Bec

STARBRIGHT - congratulations girl! You are amazing..... I bet your feet haven't even touched the ground yet..... I am so happy for you and your family. I also very much like your new signature! And of course welcome to your precious little daughter.

Klee - the photo of Kristian is just superb - what a handsome little boy. How are you doing?

Beata - good to hear from you.. how's Cam going?

Samcougar - welcome! It's good you've joined... it's a long journey sweetie, but manageable enough with support. You are much stronger than you know. You can do this. Stay sticky little smudge.

Laney - how are you doing? 20 weeks now.... bet you can't believe it. How are those results coming? Anymore news?

Butterfly - how are you doing?

AFM - the weirdest thing happened over the weekend. On Friday at the Obs, he said baby was head up after he felt my tum. I put my hands where he did and could feel nothing. Anyway over the weekend, bubs made it very easy for the novices.... bubs head was jammed over to my right side and that side was sticking out way more than the left. LOL it was easy for DH and I to see and feel where bubs was and we could feel bubs moving and sliding away from our hands. It was just amazing. Am thinking of calling the Obs now for a check though as had rush of fluid leaking just before. Doesn't seem like amniotic fluid and it's stopped, but better to be on the safe side. Up and then down - what a roller coaster ride. Belly rubs to all. And sorry if I have missed anyone.

Hi Ladies, It has been quiet in here again!

dory, just wait a few more weeks, your belly will be doing all kinds of flips and flops. It actually starts to hurt when they move! Hope everything was okay with the extra fluid. I have a lot of discharge every few days (TMI, I know).

Samcougar, I am so sorry about your little man. It makes it even more difficult when they can't tell you what happened. :hug: Congratulations on your pregnancy as well. Are your doctors going to be watching you extra close?

AFM, we just got home from our family visit in NY. It was a short visit but most likely the last one for a while.
It was nice to have a little break. I didn't have much time to worry about this pregnancy. It all caught up to me when I got home though.

Congrats SB!!! Wonderful news!!! Big hugs to all our mummies in waiting xxx

Laney - thanks for asking. It was all good in the end. The Ob did a swab and the fluid wasn't amniotic and on examination, the cervix was tightly closed. Then I had some internet probs, so no BB. I had my 1 hour glucose tolerance test yesterday and it came back slightly elevated so I am off for the 2 hour and fasting prior and special diet prior to the test. I'll go next Wednesday. I am not worried by the test or the results, it will be what it is. I don't want to wait in the waiting room for 2 hours though! I wonder if they will let me wait in the car? On Friday next week I take the fur baby in for his treatment for hyperthyroidism. I will be a mess. I will be without him for 3 weeks. Being at home by myself, the cats have really become part of my every day life, so to be without him for 3 weeks will be hard. DH can visit him after the first week, but I can't because the fur baby will be radioactive for 3 weeks and too risky for baby to be exposed to.

I've hear it can hurt when they move, but am yet to experience it.

Glad you got away and even for a brief period were too busy to worry. Is your fam in NYC or NY state? Are you having the heat wave that NYC is having? Boy is it hot there at the moment!

Anyway, that's it fr me. Take care both to you and all the other quiet ones in here. Belly rubs.

dory, it is new york state, not too far from new york city. Far enough that we don't have to deal with big city stuff. AND YES!!!! It was very very hot up there. I think today is supposed to be the last day of this heat.
So glad that everything was okay. I was checked for a fluid leak a few times with Grayson. It is always better to get it checked out.
Sorry that you are going to be without your furbaby for 3 weeks. At least DH can visit and let you know how he is doing.



DH felt this bub kick for the first time last night!!! I thought that it was going to be much later due to the anterior placenta. It was exciting.

Thought I'd say hello :hello:

Hope to properly join in soon :)

welcome Tenibear, CONGRATULATIONS!!! Hun.
Look forward to having a chat.

congratulations on your pregnancy TeniBear and I am sorry that you have to join our little group. I hope we are able to give you some extra support throughout your journey.

Hi ladies

Just wanted to pop in and say hi and I'M BACK! For those who don't know me, I'm Jo and I lost my angel Luke in 2007 due to incompetent cervix. A preventative cerclage delivered our precious DD to us last April and I'll be having another cerclage placed at 14 weeks for this pregnancy.

I got a very much unexpected BFP on Saturday night so it was a bit of a shock but it was a good shock :) I had been having 38 day cycles but this one it looks like I ovulated on time and that was enough to do it... I think I am about 5 weeks at the moment.
Rang my ob today and have an appt in 3 weeks time but my GP has also given me a referral for a dating u/s if I want it. Am going to try and hold off and just wait to see my ob as I am trying to be relaxed this time around... if thats possible!
Have a killer cold & cough atm which seems to be how I begin every pg but hopefully that clears up soon. The nurse at my GP that took my blood today also butchered me and I can barely move my arm so all up I am feeling great! LOL

We haven't told anyone yet and will probably hold off for a few weeks until that 1st scan confirms it is all really happening.
Anyway, hi to all and I look forward to sharing the journey with you xx

Jo, CONGRATULATION!!!! I knew that it wouldn't be long before you were back in here!

Congratulations Teni and Jo, Wishing you both a Happy and Healthy 8 months or so!! :confetti: :happyforyou:

wow its a bit quite in here...
Congrats on the new BFP girls!!!
sorry about the lack of persies i just need a bit of support..i have my scan tomorrow and i am freaking out... i know bub is alive but my stupid head keeps playing the what if game and i feel like i am going to be sick. how do i relax for myu scan tomorrow. how do i stop stressing for the sake of our bub??

sorry to be so... dark i just dont know who else to talk to and i figure all of you guys will know what i am going through right now...
thanks girls

mo4, I wish I could tell you that the worry goes away. You just have to take it one day at a time. I get physically ill with worry before each of my scans. :hug:

Ladies I don't know if JLK has a post it girl or not......I just saw this :
its a girl! Tehya Raine arrived today, 8lb 4oz, mum and bub both well

Morning mummies,

Jo, CONGRATULATIONS darling :happyforyou:!!!!!!!!!!! OMG I am so excited for you hun! So good to see you in this tread, like Laney said I didn't think yo'd stay away too long! ha ha. Wishing you all the very best for your pregnancy sweetie, take it easy and look after yourself. Big hugs and kisses xxxxxxxx

JLK, CONGRATS on your baby girl hun :loveshower:!!!! Welcome to the world little Tehya Raine. Beautiful name for a beautiful lady!!!!

MO4, good luck with your scan today hun :goodluck:. Try and relax, it is much easier said than done, I know, but bub is kicking away happily so concentrate on this. Let us know how you go!

Laney, Samcougar, Teni, Butterflyforever, Dory, KAM, Cmeglles & CharlieB, hi gorgeous girls!!! I hope all is going well with you and you're cruising along nicely :p Look at you Dory and Laney, you're flying girls!!!! Woohoo!

Also a big hi to Klee, Starbright, Ellie, Katiegirl & Megan, I hope you're all enjoying your precious little bubbas!!!!

I'm hoping and praying I can join you here sometime towards the end of the year, but not if my DF has anything to do with it though!!!!! Grrrrrrr!!!

Big hugs
B xxx

Beata :hug: Don't worry DH is reluctant for another one now, too. He said on sunday (right before my nephews 2nd birthday party, nice timing!) he was happy with one. I think my heart broke a little bit! But, by monday arvo I had warmed him back up to the idea aagain... sorta XD So there is plenny of hope for you yet! ;)

Sorry ladies, been slack in the posting lately, going to try and catch up, promise.

afm - New world record, I had to wait 2 hours in the antenatal clinic for my very quick 10 min appt, had my kids with me, they were so bored, I was so annoyed.
'Pip Squeak' has grown, they did a really quick glance scan. Measuring to dates exactly still, and bubs was so active, it was wriggling around all over the place, it was so cute. Heartbeat measured 164 bpm, 2 weeks now till NT scan.
Kids saw the scan today, they were amazed, especially when the registrar told them the baby was waving at them

take care all

hey guys
just letting you know that bub is great!! nothing at all to worry about
he looked so happy in there too!
thanks for the support!!!

Bobbie

Hi

Congrats to JLK on the arrival of your DD! Lovely name :D

MO4 - thats great your scan went so well!

Beata - my DH was almost totally against having another and we had only just had a big talk about it a couple of weeks ago and he was saying how he didn't want to go through another pg again and the stress etc. He is really happy now though so it was kind of lucky this was a surprise and we didn't have to actually put any thought into it otherwise it may not have happened (well I probably would have got my way eventually but who knows when that might have been?) :lol:

Butterfly - thats cute with your kids seeing bubs waving at them but what a long wait! I'm not looking forward to getting back into my ob visits as he was always running behind and now with a toddler to keep amused it will be even more annoying.

Big hi to Laney and all the other lovely ladies!

AFM I am still sick with a quite bad cough. Went to the GP again today as my ribs are killing me and apparently I have bruised where one of the ribs joins the cartilege, hence severe stabbing pain whenever I cough. Also I have pulled a muscle down in my groin area near my hip so that is also giving me excruciating pain whenever I cough or move too fast. Unfortunately due to the pg I cant take anything but panadol and wait it out :(
On another note my HCG came back at 6820 which I think is an okay number and after saying I wasn't going to have the dating scan, I ended up booking it for next Friday lol. I rang them and they bulk bill so I thought why not!

Anyway, DD whinging so better go.

Teni - awesome girl. So so good to see you in here. Have your feet even touched the ground yet? Hugs to you and Scotty Duck. The journey ahead is well and truly harrowing....

Angel Luke's Mum - Congrataulations on your sneaky BFP. I think that's even better than one you've really been hanging out for. Imagine the surprise.... well I suppose you don't have too! Good luck my sweet. Will you be having a cerclage again? I had one in at 14 weeks for this pregnancy and all seems to be going well. Be thinking of you. I am the same - always sick at the beginning of the pregnancy. Hope you feel better soon. Good luck for next Friday....

Butterfly- I really love the mental image of your kids just being amazed that your little one was waving at them. How mind blowing for them!

Beata - good luck with convincing DH about the next one..... I love the new photo of Cam.

Laney - that is awesome about your DH feeling baby kick! I have nutured of late a disco baby. Lots of frequent movements all at once. It looks like my tummy is possessed. It is just so nice to watch.... but feels a bit odd at times. LOL.

JLK - congrats on the birth of Tehya. Hope you are all doing well.

Beata did a really good summary of the rest of us in here, lurking.

M04 - glad your scan went well....

AFM - had my 2 hour GTT today. Got through it ok although my once good veins have disappeared and now it's a bit like hide and seek trying to find one... oh well. I am loving our little disco baby. Still can't believe that 30 weeks applies to me..... amazing to think I have been off work for 23 weeks. Anyway, sorry for not too many persies. Take care of yourselves and hope to hear from you soon.

Darn I slack off on the posting and look what I miss.

Congratulations to JLK on the safe arrival of little Tehya.

Welcome and Congrats to TeniBear and Angel Luke's Mum.

Hope everyone else is traveling well.

AFM it's a long story but I guess the most important thing is that I'm still here.

Congratulations to Starbright on the arrival of your DD.

I hope I haven't missed anyone and I'm so sorry if I have.

Hi ladies!!!

Just popping in quickly!!

Big Wahhoooo to Jlk!!! :clap: It has been a very looong and trying journey for you- i am so happy for you and DH that you have your beautiful healthy little girl safe and sound in your arms at last!!!! :hug: I wish you both all the happiness and joy that a new bub brings!!! xoxoxoxoxoxo

Congrats to TeniBear + Angel Lukes Mum.. welcome to the rollercoaster ride!!! You will find this thread is your haven- a safe place to share your fears and celebrate each tiny happy milestone and achievment as you plod along through your pregnancies!! All the best to you both and i hope you both have an uneventful next 8-9 months or so and that you are blessed with your precious babies to bring home xoxoxxo

Dory.... :confetti: WOW 30 weeks!!!!! That is fantastic!!! I know you never thought you would see 30 weeks!!! It must feel very surreal!! Keep powering on!!! I hope you get good results back from you GD test!!

Laney... So glad to hear all is going well for you too and that both you and DH are feeling loads of kicks!! Such a nice yummy feeling!!! :)

Butterfly... Boo on the long wait at the clinic- but YAY for a good scan!!!! Its great that your kiddies enjoyed it!!! :)

Mof4... So happy to hear your scan went well too!! I love good news when i pop in here!!! Everyone here is so deserving of some good news!!!!

AFM... DD is a dream baby- she is feeding really well and sleeping REALLY well!! i am so grateful!! Shane is so far being a great big brother!! He still isnt up for cuddles or holding her yet- (which is making it hard to get a nice family photo!!) but he is very cute when she cries in the car or at nappy changing time he tells her its "ok, Ok, ok" and gives her a little head rub. This morning he did accidently throw a ball at her head though.... :think: so i hope he doesnt keep doing that!!!

I also wanted to share something.. i had a visit from a lovely fellow BB lady i have met from the Canberra group here who meet up.. she came to visit yesterday and brought me a pressie for DD... she brought a very cute stuffed hippo- and also a ceramic money box in the shape of Noahs arc with cute animals.. now the bizarre and extreamly special thing about this gift is that we have Zahras ashes in a puta Noah's Arc Money box with cute animals .... :jawdrop: I nearly cried when i opened it!!! The only difference between the two money boxes is that Zahras is silver (puta) and the ceramic one is all nice and colourful and they do have slightly different animals, but i am still gobsmacked. She had no idea about it (and i was a bit too shocked to go into it- but i PM'd her today to tell her how special it is to me) I would love to beleive that my angel babies spirits have come back to me- i lost a boy and a girl and i have been blessed with a little boy and now a little girl, and through my journey there have been some quite strange co-incidences like this that really make me feel that either my angels are very much looking after my DS + DD or that as i hope- they really have come back to me!! I just wanted to share my crazy thoughts with people who might understand!! Sorry to get sidetracked!!!

Love and belly rubs to all!!!
xoxoxoxox SB

TENIBEAR>>>>>> I just saw your other thread about your preg tests :hug: i hope you get a definitive answer soon!! No AF is a great sign!! Fingers crossed for you xox

Starbright - mhaw - I believe Darren and Zahra are looking out for you and your two earthside bubs. That is such a lovely sweet coincidence. Nice to hear that things are going well with Kaleisha. Good to hear from you.

All good on the GTT results too - obs rooms called today! Yeah!

Thanks everyone :) I'm still here, and so is bubs (plural?)

Went to visit Ianto today, told him he's going to be a big brother :) I shouldn't have looked around though, because we have two new neighbours :cry: It's rare for me to cry at the cemetery (I usually feel so exposed) but I just broke down sobbing that it wasn't fair that these people lost their babies. I wasn't even crying for myself! I was just so heartbroken for these poor families who are going through similar to what I did only a few months ago... It wasn't til a little later when I broke down crying again (about something that wasn't even sad!) that I realised it was probably pregnancy hormones making me cry so much :lol:

I'm feeling quite good about this one. I'm getting a bit o morning sickness already, which I never got with Ianto. As well as the crying - I was perfectly fine with him, too. If it wasn't for the tests and ultrasounds, I wouldn't have believed I was pregnant with him! Hopefully this one will be a LOT more active than he was. I don't think it would've been picked up for about a week that he'd died if I hadn't fainted that day, because he was such a sleepy bubba that I wouldn't have thought much of not feeling him kick :( Scott said he's going to get strict with me and make sure I keep a kick chart. I didn't with Ianto out of sheer laziness (and a thought that I would just be stressing myself when he had slow days)

Hello lovely ladies, just a quicky today.

Sorry i have been MIA but we have been soooo busy lately. anyway i hope everyone is keeping well.

Teni- I was exactly the same with Riley, if i didn't have the scan results and a big belly i wouldn't have known i was pregnant! and with this one i'm so sick off and on all day and my BB are so sore, I really have a good feeling about it, although i do get scared sometimes and i know it's only going to get worse as the weeks roll by.

Hi Ladies, Sorry that I have been missing. I am having a hard time with the 4 week wait between ultrasounds. bub will be quiet for a day or two and it does my head in. He is back to his kicking like crazy self today. 4 more days until my weekly scans start :)

dory, great news that you don't have to deal with GD. AND LOOK AT THAT TICKER!!!!!! how are you feeling?

TeniBear, I hope this bubba kicks so much for you that you don't even feel the need for a kick chart! I started one with Grayson but he was so active all day that I didn't need to keep it up. I also so the doctor twice weekly for scans/nst's to check on him.

StarBright, so happy that everything is going well for you. How are you feeling after your c-section? That is one thing that has started to scare me. My c-section recovery was not very fun and I am not sure how to take care of Grayson and a newborn while in pain. I know that I will have help and that I have a long way to go before thinking about all that.
I am sure that our angels are watching over us :hug:

Laney - oh blossom you por girl, doing it so tough. Weekly scans both reassuring and anxiety provoking. Be strong.

You said Grayson was active in utero - is he active as a baby and toddler? Did he initially follow a similar routine on the outside? This bubs has bouts of inactivity which does my head in, as you know all too well, but then little fiipper gets some mojo back and is like an energiser bunny!

Look at you 23 weeks - that is awesome. I know it's not too reassuring for you, as I am not really that reassured by my own ticker advancing, although I am proud to have those numbers apply to me. I take nothing for granted. Apart from a little cold earlier in the week, I am feeling just great. I love my expanding belly. I love feeling bubs move. Was teary last night, but that's ok - even though nominally 9 weeks to go is such a short time compared to how far I have come, it still feels so far away. I also reaslied that ultimately, the buck will stop with me and just getting my head around that concept. Guess I was just feeling sorry for myself. I have a scan next week, at the same place and same date that our wee Nicholas came into the world far too early. Am hoping that we'll get through the day. I am not one to back away from fears, so have made myself embrace this one, for better or for worse. But I think I might be excited about the prospect of seeing bubs. We will be having our scans close together. Mine is Wednesday but I think yours could be Monday? Good luck.... I will be anxiously waiting for your results.

Are you certain of having a c section? Do you have any plans for Parker's angel versary this year? 3 years on... geez time flies but at the same time stands still.

Hi ladies

Just wanted to pop in and say hi and let you know that we had our dating scan this morning and we have a little bean in there with a heartbeat! I am measuring 6w2d which makes me due 16 March but I will most likely go early with the stitch removal so closer to beginning of March. HB was 118 pm which they said was normal for gestation. I see my ob in 2 weeks to discuss the rest of the journey :)

Laney, sorry to read you are having a tough time atm. Hope once the regular scans begin it helps to make you feel a bit better.
Dory, you are so far along now - well done! Will your stitch come out for a VB or will you be having a c/s? I asked the u/s lady today to have a look for my stitch and she could see it still sitting in there. My ob couldn't get it out for delivery so just cut it and it looks like it has been making its way out of my cervix gradually for the last 15 months even though I can't feel it. Hopefully it won't impact on getting the new one!

Hi to everyone else and hope you all have a great weekend. We are going to tell our families the big news so it should be an exciting weekend for us. They will be SO shocked lol! x

Hi everyone!!!

Laney ... I am doing really well three weeks on- i did have my mum here for about a week though right after my csection, which was great as she did all the house work and taking loads of washing in and out etc, and alot of lifting shane. Then the house was a mess and pretty grotty for about a week til the weekend when DH gave it a good clean- then i was kind of lucky and my washing machine broke this week so i havent had to do any washing lol, BUT i have managed vacuuming- but not mopping. i am probbaly doing more than i should be, but you do what you have to do!! My biggest thing i noticed that hurt was when i was putting shane to bed- when he tried to get out of bed (the little good boy he is ;) ) and i had to lift him up and lay him down again time aftert time after time, that wasnt good, but now i can do it no worries at all.

Speaking of my little boy- he wants to play- so i am off!!!

Big belly rubs to all!!!!

SB, I remember feeling okay after 2 weeks and great after 4. I think DH will be doing Grayson's bed time routine for a while after this bub is born. He is still in a crib and it is hard for me to get him into it now let alone with staples in my belly.
Glad that you are feeling so well already!

Jo, congrats on a great first scan! My mom and Gram share a birthday on March 16th. I very good day.

dory, Grayson was crazy in utero and he still is :) Of course he had to sleep once and a while but I would poke at him and he would wiggle again. The doctor actually agreed to do the c-section because Grayson was breech the week before the planned induction or c-section. He was doing so many flips in there he was never facing the same way when the doctor checked. It was rather painful the last couple of weeks.
He did not keep the same routine after he was born. When I was pregnant he was very active at night and I am very thankful that it did not stay that way.
Good luck with your scan next week!
Are you getting a room ready for bub yet?

We have not yet decided what to do for Parker's angel day. It is always so hard. Thank you for noticing Dory :hug: I unknowingly scheduled my ultrasound on the day that we found out that Parker no longer had a heart beat (at an ultrasound) I am a little bit worried about the extra stress that is going to add but there is nothing that can be done about it now. I refuse to move the ultrasound back...I need to see what is going on in there. :(
Are you doing anything extra to remember Nicholas on his angel day? I know it must be hard when your activity is restricted.

hi everyone

Hi Cindee, welcome back! I was in this forum when you had your tiny little Miranda. Congratulations on your pregnancy. Are you taking aspirin or clexane for this pregnancy?

Hi all,
Just popping in to see how everyone is going