Laney... i often do a stalk check on you to see how you are going!! I am sorry to read about your early chemical loss. Hopefully this month will be your month!! I know what you mean about not fitting in anywhere too- for some reason i always felt comfy in the preg thread- even before i was pregnant too- our whole ttc thread in my last pregnancy pretty much all moved to the preg thread before we were pregnant!! I think it brought us all luck too- so i hope it does the same to you!!
Sorry again for slack personals... i had a quick read through and sweet congrats to mrswpilgrim and dory for your bfps- it is long journey and i sincerly hope that it will be a successful one for everyone!!! A big to everyone for your losses.
"I just wanted to know how people coped with the worry that something will go wrong? "
That is the million dollar question- you dont and you just do. It is normal to be freaked out- and scared about things that "normal' pregnant women just dont blink an eye at- a perfect example is my stupid gp mentioning in passing the hb was a bit slow- "but dont worry" he said. Yeah freaking right i wont - thanks for that!!!!!
You learn to set milestones and get whatever reassurance you can or need- a good ob who allows you to have "crazy lady scans" (which are scans where the main purpose is just to show you that bubs is alive and kicking) is a godsend. And once you get further along- make friends with the midwives at the hospital- you can stop by the hospital anytime you are scared and request a ctg- which is a machine that measures bubs heart rate and movements. You dont get to "see" bubs- but it is still really reassuring to know if things are looking "normal"
And coming here- this site and this thread- its why people like klee and myself come back. Even though we both have babies (well little boys- they arnt babies anymore ) at home- we are still scared of the possibilty of something going wrong- and we surround ourselves with people who understand!!!
Speaking of little boys- mine wants to lay- so i am off...
Just popping in to give you all a bellyrub - I'm having withdrawals, I miss mine now... It seems yonks ago!
Special cuddles to Laney You're in my thoughts chick, hope this is your month too xx
We're all doing great at this end... Jackson is starting to smile Mind you, he makes you work for them the little ratbag! Have had a couple of unsettled nights after niave mummy thought we'd finally got a routine happening.. boy didn't he prove me wrong, was a shock to the old system let me tell ya. But we seem to have fallen back into the pattern again (the one I like!) I think perhaps he may be having a growth spurt - he's gonna be taller than me soon.
Hope the heat isn't being to unkind to you! mwah! xx
Teagz - awesome to hear from you. Thanks for the belly rub, it made me smile. Can't believe Jackson is 1 month old. He is looking so handsome. Glad to hear that you are mostly working your way through the sleep deprivation.
Welcome Laney and Starbright. I am relatively new to this particular thread too. Hope you get the support you are looking for.
Starbright, I had to laugh at your crazy lady scans. I think I just might be the queen crazy lady when it comes to scans. On the final invoice from my OB I had close to 60 scans with Grayson! I had a growth scan every other week and then a biophysical profile scan once a week. I also had ctg's once or twice a week after 32 weeks. I didn't even have to ask for all of those scans my doctor just knew that I needed them. I really needed to see what was going on in there.
Have you been able to relax a little more with this pregnancy? I am so afraid that I am going to be a nervous wreck with my next pregnancy. I really don't have time to be such a crazy lady with a baby to take care of.
Teagz, I am glad that you and your little guy are getting into a routine. They do get much better with it as they get older. There are going to be those days and even weeks where the routine goes out the window.
Kat Your question about worry.. it never goes away. As for baby's h/b it can range quite healthily from 120 thru to 180 depends on whether bub is asleep or moving and the moment the Dr takes the reading. I have a doppler here and would listen for a few minutes with Daniel and it would vary so wildly but the experts reckon that a wide range is healthy whereas staying constant is not quite so good.
Congratulations .. I think I posted on FB as well?
Ellie you have another blessing on board I was so happy when I saw that the other week when I came back to lurk.
Laney you have been thru such a lot too and I hope this next BFP you get will be sticky and not disappear within a few weeks. That is so heartbreaking when you get your hopes up and reams reawakened only to have to say goodbye yet again.
ETA Klee hey hun, it's nice to be able to join you as well in the pg thread. Gosh has it been that long since I met you on the forum? Time seems to go so fast the older we get. And yeah I am now classified as a geriatric mum-to-be, forget the corect term but it is supposed to make you feel ancient. I still feel 18 in my mind though so who cares what my birth certificate says lol. My Drs have confirmed a few times though what a miracle it is for me to be pg this time esp as I was still breastfeeding Daniel ( who weaned himself 3 days after I got my BFP) and I had acute gastro followed by a week of acute mastitis and still got pg!
Dory I am so sorry for the loss of your baby boy Cash. Post mortems do often give an unknown result. We had clear reasons for Annabelle as my OB saw the cord wrapped twice around her neck with her arm thru a loop of it and the hypercoils in it causing it to kink and twist. But when she got to the autopsy of course she had no cord around her neck and the placenta and cord had straightened out once it was unlooped from her. Hopefully this time around your medical team will be more supportive and listen to your concerns.
I am joining here again too but not sure for how log.
Some of you know me from before so would know about my stillborn baby girl due cord entanglement and then the recurrent m/c ( over 8 in 3 yrs) before we finally had Daniel in our arms. He is now 10 1/2 mths old.
I turned 46 on Feb 3 and on Feb 2 I got 2 clear lines at 9dpo. I eventually summoned up the courage to go to the Dr at 19dpo and the beta was 1396. The 2nd one at 22dpo was 3158 and 25 dpo was 5332. So it isn't doubling but is still rising.
I had a scan at 25 dpo too as there was a concern that with spotting and pain I may have ectopic pg but the scan showed a clear corpus luteum on the left ovary, right ovary was fine, no other lumps or bumps or free fluid........ and 2 sacs in the uterus !
One she was able to measure at 5w3d with what looked like a forming fetal pole. The other was smaller with no discernible ring around it like the first one but as she said if it is twins it is 2-3 days behind the bigger sac so could still be forming.
I have another beta on Monday and a second progesterone draw. the first one was 35 at 22dpo.
So we either have twins or a vanishing twin or what the Dr doing the scan report said could be a pseudo ectopic sac although the sonographer said there was absolutely no sign of ectopic.
I have no morning sickness whereas even with chem pgs I have had I have had bad m/s by 4 1/2 weeks.
So I don't know.
The betas are sort of hopeful? the 2 sacs could be hopeful? or it could fall flat ...
I know you ladies would understand my concerns and worries better than others who have never experienced anything like this.
hugs and hope to you all and hopefully I'll catch up better with personals once I get reading more foten
Jude
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Judy- dejavu or what??!!! What a miracle for you guys!! I really hope for you that things progress nicely- your right- your numbers arnt neccessarily doubling- but they are sure rising!!
Laney.... Thats exaclty it- when you do have a little one to look after- you do find that you just dont have the time to sit and ponder all the horrible what if's!! Yeah they do still go through your head- but then at the same time you have a beautiful constant reminder that things can go right sitting there in front of you wanting you to play and read to him and cuddle!!! It has defiantely helped this time around- and it sure does make the weeks fly by!!!!
I was doing really well i think until the dr scared me with the "slow hb" thing.. but then again i may have just been in denial and that was all it took for all the bad thoguhts that were lurking to surface to a full blown stress attack!! I had had two scans already- the 13 week one and one with the ob a week before my big scan ( i am a recovering scan addict.. trying to cut back on them this time!! :P) ) so in my heart i knew everything should be ok- it is just so easy to worry!! I have a low placenta at the front- so i may get another scan to check that it will rise high enough to be able to have another csection- and when i see the ob i will get scans, so this is the looong time of just waiting. And having the placenta at the front means not feeling alot of movement, which is always easy to do your head about- but it was reassuring to see her flipping and moving around during the scan and not feeling it- so i know just coz i dont feel it doesnt mean its not happening!!
Any way- i am off for now- Lil S is nearly due to wake up!!
Take care everyone and belly rubs to all!!
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Ladies, I have been sitting in this forum for months just waiting for some conversation. It is really exciting to have you all back.
Judy, Welcome back. How exciting, two sacs. I really hope everything goes well for you. I will be keeping my figners crossed.
I had really bad MS with Parker and Shelby. I had no sickness at all with Grayson. I went to the doctor in tears thinking that I had lost him.
When is your next scan to check on growth?
I am sorry to read about your early chemical loss. Hopefully this month will be your month!! I know what you mean about not fitting in anywhere too- for some reason i always felt comfy in the preg thread- even before i was pregnant too- our whole ttc thread in my last pregnancy pretty much all moved to the preg thread before we were pregnant!! I think it brought us all luck too- so i hope it does the same to you!!
to everyone for your losses.
) at home- we are still scared of the possibilty of something going wrong- and we surround ourselves with people who understand!!!
Mind you, he makes you work for them the little ratbag! Have had a couple of unsettled nights after niave mummy thought we'd finally got a routine happening.. boy didn't he prove me wrong, was a shock to the old system let me tell ya. But we seem to have fallen back into the pattern again (the one I like!) I think perhaps he may be having a growth spurt - he's gonna be taller than me soon. 
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