SIDS anxiety

[Baby~amore`]

oh Michelle- big hugs. I put my hand up to being an obsessive baby checker and for having 'irrational' but NORMAL fears too. I think it is very normal and many of the mums in my support group admit to doing this too.

It is part of the ongoing grief process and also a bit of mother's intuition - natural for all mums to be protective of our young.

I STILL check the twins more than I should but I can't help it. I have to do it to stay sane (as insane as it feels).

I agree 100% with Tiggy.

I still do it but the first few months I did it all day - I check to see and feel if then are breathing - did it several times today and I do it overnight with them sleeping next to me. I don't really think it is irrational it makes me feel safe (sane) and reassures me a little longer.

I was exactly the same with my Husband and son after Charlotte died too. I imagined the worst case senarios ... Ds sleeping over and house fires , even DH crossing the road -DS being abducted ... his first day of Y6 - I was waiting outside, watching him catch the bus (from our back fence -across vacant land next door about 40- 50m) and I turned my back for a minute ...then I couldn't see him and kids were boarding the bus. So I got in the car and followed the bus all the way to school via a long route to make sure he was actually on the bus and hadn't been snatched.

Deb - I agree with you too - as a paed nurse I was obsessive back then too and when we adopted our DS at 13months too. I even did it with children (5 & 7) I babysat at 18yrs and my cousins.

I think that this comes with our oc nursing habits somewhat speaking only for myself of course! ) I could hardly believe that I had birthed this perfect little human. I too was sure she would be taken away.

Snap !

Michelle - I think if it interferes with you being able to do your normal 'things' ~housework, go out, sleeping etc it wouldn't be a bad idea to speak to someone. I found it didn't change anything when I spoke to psychologist about my irrational fears for DS .. he said - if it made me so worried don't let him go ...(in that instance it was away for Easter with family (@ almost 13). I did let him go but worried whole time.

I never got a monitor ... didn't trust them as much as myself but with twins it was complicated ...unless we used monitors with the sticky 'dots' and leads like apnoea ones. Thinking of you - Oscar is adorable.

[Michelle71]

Thank you Trish and Tiggy. It reassures me even more when nurses 'fess up to being just as paranoid (if not more so ) Life is moving on and Oscar is 8 weeks old. Doesn't time fly by. I still check on him and make sure he is breathing and I still have my fears about family but I accept this as normal for me at this time. Everything else is still normal so if this is my only quirk then I am happy to embrace it

Now, if only the new computer would arrive so I can get back on line more regularly ........

[daddy]

Maybe you should look at getting a Respisense breathing monitor, you can have it on them at all times. I know we will be getting one for our next baby.
You are never going to stop Gods plan for you little bundle no matter how often you check on them, but you can only do your best. Sure I wish we had have checked in on our DD earlier than we did, but really would it have changed anything? If it wasn’t at that time it may have been another time. I understand your concern but I think you may be stressing yourself out over it a little, we just can’t be there 100% of the time.
Our DD passed away at 10½ months, I thought we were over that worrying time, and now after reading a lot of SIDS stories I see that there are children as old as 6 that have sadly passed away.