Hun, I totally get how you feel. When I was pregnant with my second son (my first earthside child) I felt I didn't fit. Prepare yourself for the "is this your first child?" questions. I found the pregnancy after stillbirth and late loss thread to be an absolute lifesaver. I credit the women I met in this thread as some of my most treasured lifelong friends.
I didn't go into the belly buddies groups at all. I just felt that I didn't fit. My pregnancy experience was much different to theirs and I didn't want to take away their innocence IYKWIM, I needed a place where I could be 100% honest, warts and all.
I'm so happy that you got a BFP babe.
Spring xx
ETA: Hun I had a rule about people asking 'is this your first bub?. If it was a complete stranger that I would not see again (like a checkout lady) I would say yes then whisper under my breath (I love you Harry) it was just my way of surviving because honestly every single person seems to ask that question. If it was someone I'd see again (like work colleague) I'd be honest and say 'no, I have had a baby boy who was tragically stillborn'. Prepare yourself for the whole range of responses from completely ignoring you, to sympathy to stupid responses like everything happens for a reason which was always upset me and make me furious. HTH
Last edited by Spring Angel; July 13th, 2010 at 10:00 AM.
TeniBear, I struggle with the "is this your first child" question. Even after your bub is born everyone will ask if they are your first. I really have not had the courage to tell people that Grayson is my 3rd baby. It is mostly for me. I am afraid that if I say no I will break down into tears.
I have always felt very comfortable in the pregnancy after late loss thread. I have made some life long friends as well. It has been a little quiet lately but I hope the chatter picks back up soon.
Teni,
If it was me, I'd be saying no, it's my 2nd. If it's some random stranger, they don't need to know all the details. Let them think whatever they want to think. iykwim. (eg: He's being cared for, because you know he is.) If it's someone you know, they'd already know the answer.
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