Hey there,

Does/has anyone felt insulted by the way doctors treat every pre 12 week pregnancy as unimportant until it gets to that safe point? I have experienced it with my last 2 kids but forgot what it was like until this time. It's almost like they don't want to waste recourses and time on a pregnancy that might not make it.

I had this experience over the last week.....I found out by accident I was pregnant through some blood tests, I have both pcos and 3 endometriosis surgeries in the past three years, so it was a real miracle

I had severe pain, so of course got an u/s to rule out an ectopic. As I've mentioned in an earlier thread, they found no baby YET (there will be one ) but they did find a mass on my ovary which is either an endometrioma or brenner tumor, that actually had ruptured and I have free fluid in the POD as well as the mass still being there. I felt it rupture before i found out i was pregnant, but thought it was just way worse than usual endo pain due to my AF being due. The sonographer told me I would be sent for another in a couple of weeks for sure because of the mass and free fluid and also to see a viable baby.

My doctor rings me with the results, explains it to me. I said 'when should I get my next scan?' He said there's no point!! I asked why, and he said unless he suspects there is a missed abortion, there's no point because seeing the little baby might just get my hopes up and he doesn't want me to be optimistic yet. I read the results when I received them in the mail, he DIDN'T explain about the mass, he just said there's something there but they don't know what it is and it won't be a problem, I asked the possibility of it rupturing and he said no. The doctor's report from the scan suggested follow up scans over the next month to monitor it and also suggests that it has already ruptured. I know it ruptured because it's happened before to me 2 years ago and that was exactly what it felt like (except the first time I got very sick with perionitis).

All I get is that there is a high possibility of miscarriage (he didn't say why) and that only after one happens that I will get a scan.

So I'm supposed to sit here for the next 6 weeks worrying about if there even is a baby there, if this mass thing is growing or still bleeding, and only at 12 weeks maybe they'll check into it more! And I"m worried I"ll trot along at 12 weeks and that the baby wasn't even there or maybe died when all this stuff happened and all that time I would be building my hopes.

I've had bleeding every morning for a week now and I'm thinking of going back this week. I didn't have this before and it doesn't seem normal, also my stomach is bloated right right up and is getting bigger everyday, this also worries me that I'm filling up with blood like what happened when the cyst ruptured 2 years ago. And the pain is excrutiating at times. He can't just tell me to sit here and wait things out, surely.

I'm very sorry I need a rant, we aren't telling anyone for obvious reasons and I can't talk to anyone about it. My partner is 100% supportive but absolutely won't hear of that things might go wrong, tells me not to worry as soon as I talk about it.