I just found out yesterday that i am indeed pregnant, we were not trying and i assume one drunken night we didn't use protection...
2 weeks ago i lfet my partner because he cheated on me, and now i am pregnant... i have not told him or anyone as i am thinking a tonn of things right now...
He already has a Daughter to his ex griflriend who he has always claimed got pregnant on purpose to trap him into a relationship and wanted nothing but an abortion, he does love his daughter now but it was not an easy time for all involved getting to the birth... im 110% certain he is going to do the same to me, i did not trap him and this was the last thing on my mind.
I am also scared how my parents would react, i am 24 living at home and clearly not with my boyfriend... i don't think this will go down too well and im so affraid of getting kicked outta home etc;
part of me wants to have this child a veyr big part, but i know i will be pressured by my ex to have the pregnancy terminated..
Also during this time and now i feel so guilty, had i known i was pregnant i'd have done none of this, but ive been drinking excessively and smoked some pot and had an ecstasy pill...i have sort of been running wild since my break up as ive been hurting a lot... can this affect my child dramatically?? i know ill have to see my gp and get an ultrasound etc;
im so affraid and confused and need someone to talk to
\any help would be appreciated, especially from a males point of veiw.
Hugs to you hun, sounds like you need them. Can you talk to your mum about this? Will she be supportive?
I really don't think getting back together with your partner sounds like a good idea since the reasons you broke up will still be there. I guess you need to weigh up your options and decide what is best for YOU in this situation and how you feel about everything. Its a lot of hard decisions to make I am afraid, perhaps some sort of counselling with someone used to dealing with these sitautions?
As for bubs you need to go and see your GP ASAP so you can get checked out, there are many of us who have done things we shouldn't have done before we knew we were pg so please don't beat yourself up over it, you cannot change the past just work on the future!
There are very many wise and beautiful women on this site who will be able to offer more advice than me so you have come to the right place.
I think that you should start by telling your mum. She might surprise you with her reaction. You are going to need her support whatever you do and I hope that she is there for you. If not, is there anyone else you can confide in?
I also recommend getting some counselling to help you through the decision making process. Hopefully your GP will be able to refer you somewhere. Also, go and see your GP asap, I think you need the reassurance from a medical professional. Most times drugs etc that you take in the early days don't have an affect, it mostly depends how far along you were - but a doctor should be able to give you better information and I'm sure put your mind at rest.
I agree with the others. Definitely talk to your mum. I was in a similar position many years ago and my Mum floored me with just how supportive and caring she was.
From the sounds of it you will be needing to make a decision on keeping this baby on the basis that you're doing it without your ex's help and support - having a baby is definitely not a reason to try again. And if that's the case, his wishes shouldn't come into your decision. I think its really important to make such a huge decision being honest about how its going to be. MR's suggestion of counselling is a very, very good one.
As for what you've done since conception, until the placenta takes over our babies are actually very well protected from what we do to ourselves. What's done is done, so be honest with your GP about it but there's no need to beat yourself up about things that can't be changed.
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