I think that you should start by telling your mum. She might surprise you with her reaction. You are going to need her support whatever you do and I hope that she is there for you. If not, is there anyone else you can confide in?
I also recommend getting some counselling to help you through the decision making process. Hopefully your GP will be able to refer you somewhere. Also, go and see your GP asap, I think you need the reassurance from a medical professional. Most times drugs etc that you take in the early days don't have an affect, it mostly depends how far along you were - but a doctor should be able to give you better information and I'm sure put your mind at rest.
I agree with the others. Definitely talk to your mum. I was in a similar position many years ago and my Mum floored me with just how supportive and caring she was.
From the sounds of it you will be needing to make a decision on keeping this baby on the basis that you're doing it without your ex's help and support - having a baby is definitely not a reason to try again. And if that's the case, his wishes shouldn't come into your decision. I think its really important to make such a huge decision being honest about how its going to be. MR's suggestion of counselling is a very, very good one.
As for what you've done since conception, until the placenta takes over our babies are actually very well protected from what we do to ourselves. What's done is done, so be honest with your GP about it but there's no need to beat yourself up about things that can't be changed.
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