Hi Clare,

I'm sorry for your loss. It's hard at any time of the pregnancy to loose a baby, but it would be even harder if you don't have anyone to talk to.

I lost a baby this year also and only found out when I had the 13 week scan.

A friend of mine had the same issue as me and lost her's at 14 weeks. She went to a grief counsellor, only once, but said it helped her so much, she recommended it to me.

I didn't go, but probably should have looking back on what I went through was very dramatic, 2 surgeries, etc.

It might be something to suggest to you and your DH to try. Sometimes it's best to grieve before trying again.

If DH doesn't feel he needs it, then maybe just go for yourself and have a good vent and get it out there.

My girlfriend wrote a letter to her baby she lost and said all of the things that she wished for in it's life etc. She said that was really helpful. I personally couldn't bring myself to do that. I believe when you loose a baby it's the same soul that will return in the next pregnancy, and it's just a matter of unfortunate timing.

I hope that might help you and I hope I haven't upset you. It's hard to write this even now as I get very very emotional about it all still.

Take care and keep writing and letting us know how you are and now that you are loved and people here really do understand what you are currently going through.

I personaly think that you are very brave visiting this site as it has only been a week since your loss.

Good luck and keep in touch.