snowgirl,

I haven't read the whole thread but I am sorry to read of the death of your friend. It must have been a very difficult time for you, and even now reflecting on that in writing.

I don't think Lesley (Mouse) intended to sound insensitive, she's been a member of BellyBelly for a long time and has been very supportive to all - she has never posted anything nasty or malicious. I think it's a mixture of shock that your friend was treated so badly (when Lesley had only experienced good treatment herself) and also on the internet, things can often come off sounding different or not what they intended.

Maybe it could have been worded better, but I am sure it wasn't intended to upset you at all - just a comment acknowledging that it was bad treatment for your friend, and something you wouldn't normally expect.

I hope this doesn't cause any tension between you girls, you are both great members of BellyBelly and I'm really proud of how well we discuss and deal with issues. It's obviously a sensitive issue and it's always difficult to know what to say when you haven't experienced situations others have been through, particularly death. I know I get totally tongue-tied sometimes when people need support - it's hard to know what to say at times.

We all have different ways of supporting people, often based on our own experiences, and not everyone is always going to word it the right way unfortunately. I know Lesley didn't post that with intention to upset you for the day, or at all.

Snowy - huuuuge :hugs: for you, I do know it must be a difficult thing for you. I hope you are feeling better matey.