Dear Miss.M,
I found out I was pregnant 6 months into our marriage and hubby and I didn't know how we'd work things financially! We just built a house and also have a personal loan to pay for the wedding. But don't worry, you'll make it work, and you only have to have worked 8hrs a week for 12 months to get paid parental leave, so you may qualify for that. Otherwise you are definitely eligible for baby bonus. Plus there is also Family Tax benefit A and B, childcare rebates etc.
My friend has bought all her nursery furniture stuff, capsules, prams etc. on ebay and gumtree classifieds and spent less than $500 all up, so its very possible to get all the necessaries without spending a fortune.
You WILL make it work financially, all our family is interstate as well, but i'm now on unpaid maternity leave so we are only on the one income and we are working it.
I was panicked at first, but trust me, these things work out!
ETA: My parents said on our wedding day, no grandkids for 5 years etc etc, but now they are sooo excited and can't wait. so don't worry about the parents, trust me they come around
xxoooxox