DH and I have decided to abstain untilt he second trimester.

THis is because...

i have a history of miscarriage

i have a history of threatened miscarriage

i have bled VERY heavily after sex during my two successful pg's (once in each, then we chose to abstain)

i have bled heavily after just 'fooling around' without penetration

i was recently feeling a little excited after a s3xy dream. woke up and had started bleeding.

Yes we are both feeling a bit frustrated and snappy, but the well being of our baby is the most important thing. I am blessed with an extremely patient and understanding DH.

BUT. everyone is different, this is just my story.