We had been TTC for 3 years when we got pregnant. We had the scan done, and we came back with a 1 in 141 chance of having downs. Apparently this was mainly based on the blood test (I still don't understand how my blood can determine what the baby would be), as the ultrasound man (can't remember what they call them) was only making positive comments at the scan, I was 27 also.
Anyway, once we got that result we were referred for a CVS, they called when I was I my way home (still crying) from the dr's, I was booked and ready to have the test the following week. I don't think I slept those few days, the risk - even though only 1 -2 %, to me was a big risk, as it's had been a long journey to finally be pregnant. 2 nights before the 'big day' I was sitting on the lounge looking at my belly and said what shall I do, I felt a little pop. At that moment I decided it was not worth the risk of losing it. I called and cancelled the procedure the next day. I felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders.
At the growth scans at 20wks and we decided to do the 30weeks also, they looked for signs of downs (eg brightness in the bowel, short limbs, and a few other things they look at which I can't quite remember) and even then they were not able to say either way, especially as we had both those 2 signs evident in our scans. At this stage I was getting myself prepared for the worse.
As soon as our son Cameron was born I was looking for signs (after I looked at what gender he was)- but all I could see was this healthy, beautiful little boy... and it's has turned out he has not got downs syndrome. All that worry for nothing.
I'm in 2 minds whether I would do it again for hopefully round 2. At this stage, I think I would do the tests again, for a few reasons:- 1- to get a look at our baby, 2- as it also test for other abnormalities, 3- so i could prepare myself if we are high risk. But whatever the results though, I wouldn't do the CVS or Amnio and I most definately couldn't terminate. But at least I could prepare myself.
I also keep wondering about those results, as really they are only based on those who get tested, so would they be as high if 'everyone' got tested?
To me what helped is when I asked myself, would I terminate if it did have downs, my answer was no...i would love this child no matter what.
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