Stressing. Doing everything wrong...

**Calluna** · January 29th, 2013, 09:14 PM

I know I posted this in the BB thread, but I'm really stressing and need some reassurance.

I am shattered. Completely stuffed. We had some water come in our lougeroom, from the sky, not flooding up thank goodness. Which soaked our carpets. They have been put outside to dry out but DF insisted we had to bring them in tonight despite me telling him I needed to rest. I see his point but Im so sore and tired, I just needed to sit. And that doesnt include my wrist, which after moving a heap of furniture by myself because of our small flood is now incredibly sore. Did the stupid carpets and 3/4 of the way through we discover a spider on the sofa. Tries to squash it, missed and decided the only way to kill it was to spray the **** out of it. It ran inside the sofa so now we have no idea if he got it and if not where the **** it is. Not to mention all that lovely poison Ive just inhaled. Now Im scared its going to cause a miscarriage.

Plus, over the last 3 days Ive also eaten feta cheese, buffet at sizzler, prepared salad with cold egg in, and a ricotta and spinach sausage roll because I cant let on to MIL that Im preggas.

I feel like Im doing everything wrong and so scared that one or a combo of these things will cause a defect or loss.

Tomorrow I get to overdo it again when I have to go shopping by myself with my 3 year old and no car.

I just want to rest!!

I need a hug. Tell me it will be ok.

**PumpkinZulu** · January 29th, 2013, 09:20 PM

It WILL be okay, you'll be okay. You're a tired, stressed, hormonal mumma, you're doing a good job. Go easy on yourself.

**OceanPrincess** · January 29th, 2013, 09:21 PM

I know the feeling. But we can't wrap ourselves in cotton wool for nine months eh? Especially with other kiddies in the mix.

Try and rest as much as you can, before and after the shopping. Or maybe shop online?? Might be worth paying delivery to save you sanity and energy?

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**Calluna** · January 29th, 2013, 09:26 PM

I'm not even 4 weeks yet. So important in terms of cell growth..
If it was later I might not be so stressed about the bug spray. Or maybe I would. Dunno.

I might be a little hormonal, SO not a crier but this would be teary #3 since 4pm. Lol

Still have to go to the fruit shop separately. They dont deliver.Going to do a small shop and just get neccesities. Its more the getting there and home that is the hard part.

**little_mrs** · January 29th, 2013, 10:20 PM

Just remind yourself that most people don't even know they're pregnant before 4 weeks so they do all that stuff and go on to have normal fine healthy babies. And to avoid stress, don't eat stuff you know will stress you out for anyone else's sake, your allowed to say no to food! And most people are pregnant and towing around another small child (eg I have a 15kg 2yo that has insisted on me holding/carrying her all the time since I was about 5 weeks pg, I'm now 11.5 weeks and she's still at it!) and it works out fine. Try not to stress, tho I know it's easier said than done! Good luck x

**chody47** · January 30th, 2013, 12:46 AM

It WILL all be fine. Like the others have said, go easy on yourself. Just try to rest when you can, like you I was always exhausted early on in pregnancy.

**Calluna** · January 30th, 2013, 05:31 AM

Thank you, Im trying to be rational. Feeling a little better this morning. Did another HPT this morning she the test line came up before the control. That has to be good...

**misty** · January 30th, 2013, 06:05 AM

**Mummy&Daddy2Be** · January 30th, 2013, 06:49 AM

**Rowellen** · January 30th, 2013, 08:38 AM

If you want to avoid certain foods, tell MIL you're going on a health kick because you've been feeling unwell. Most people might suspect a pg regardless of what you do, say or eat purely because you are female, have a partner and a child already but they won't know for sure. A lot of people don't even know they are pg at that stage and do a lot worse than that (myself included so I understand how you are feeling) and go on to have healthy babies (my DS survived a general anaesthetic and several bottles of wine in his first 7 weeks and believe me I freaked out).

**Cranky Kitten** · January 30th, 2013, 08:57 AM

Hey Calluna - first off, congratulations!

Secondly - it will be fine. I didn't find out I was pregnant with DD until nearly 10 weeks and boy I did absolutely everything they say not to do - from drinking in smoky nightclubs till 4am to eating all the naughty foods and working in a petrol station (so inhaling petrol fumes pretty well all day every day) and no pre-pregnancy vitamins at all. She was born perfectly fine. In the early stages they're snuggled nice and safe in your pelvis and the placenta IIRC is yet to take over at 4 weeks.

The tiredness sucks donkeys but it will pass. So they keep telling me :/

**LionsandBears** · January 30th, 2013, 10:12 AM

Calluna, there is seriously nothing you can do at this stage. Give yourself a break and stop beating yourself up and stressing. It aint going to make a lick of difference either way.

If you're worried about eating certain foods, dont eat them. If you're worried that moving furniture will cause damage, don't. It's unlikely it will, but if it's a worry, don't.

If you find it difficult to manage your anxiety, then get some counselling.

**sahbear** · January 30th, 2013, 11:15 AM

Calluna, there is seriously nothing you can do at this stage. Give yourself a break and stop beating yourself up and stressing. It aint going to make a lick of difference either way.

If you're worried about eating certain foods, dont eat them. If you're worried that moving furniture will cause damage, don't. It's unlikely it will, but if it's a worry, don't.

If you find it difficult to manage your anxiety, then get some counselling.

Excellent advice!
Here to an uneventful pregnancy for you.

**KittyK** · January 30th, 2013, 11:38 AM

Calluna firstly congrats Hun!!!! So happy to hear you are utd. Don't worry, I ate a buttload of cold ham just before and I'm shamed to say just after I found out I was pg. had my scan and all was ok. Tell mil you don't feel like eating then hit up Maccas on the way home

**Calluna** · January 30th, 2013, 12:10 PM

Thank you for the reassurance ladies. Logically I know it will more than likely be fine. It's just that niggling worry in the back of my mind. I keep coming back and reading your replies when I'm getting a bit anxious, it's helping.

Thanks for the congratulations too! I'm not sure I really believe it yet. Waiting on the BT still Before properly announcing anything, but 5 HPTs can't be wrong!

**Ca Plane Pour Moi** · January 30th, 2013, 08:18 PM

Calluna firstly congrats Hun!!!! So happy to hear you are utd. Don't worry, I ate a buttload of cold ham just before and I'm shamed to say just after I found out I was pg. had my scan and all was ok. Tell mil you don't feel like eating then hit up Maccas on the way home

Just wanted to pop in and say that you're doing great, you are not a bad mother. Then I saw this and had to tell you and Kitty that I ate brie while I found out I was pregnant. I had lots of nice cheeses before I found out too. Plus I'm fairly sure I had some afterwards as well. Plus drunk alcohol through the pregnancy (although only tiny amounts after I found out, at about 7w).

I also ate pineapple, flew, helped fit a bathroom (including lifting and not being allowed to use the loo) and did other silly things. I would say "and Liebling turned out fine" but I'm waiting to see how much therapy he needs in later life - anything after the age of 30 he can't blame on me, so just 24 years before I can call myself a good mother. Just remember that at this stage, baby is all in the egg and hasn't started to plug into your system yet. So won't be poisoned by spider-spray.