Hi Froofy - I guess it all comes down to the type of child yuor DD is. By the sounds of it you have covered all of your bases with preparation and options she can have during the birth. From what i can calculate your DD will be 5 or even close to 6 years of age by the time bubs will be here and she will probably have asked you all the questions about how and why in relation to the birth but i agree that maybe she should see a video first as long as she understands that it could be a very long process (not quick like a video would portray) and mummy may not always have a smile on her face IYKWIM #-o .

I had a friend whos 3 1/2 year old DS ended up being at his Sisters birth only this june, as mum went into labour 4 weeks early and as it was 6 in the morning they took him with them and thier support person in the hope he would soon be collected by a relative. However bubs would not wait and her brother got to see it all (from behind his mothers head - as he was sitting with his dad). They have a photo of him helping to cut the cord which will be a tresured memory. I am not sure at that age how he felt or what his thoughts were but by no means was it a difficult labour, so i guess he wasn't scared or worried for his mum.

My only advice to you is to listen to your heart and as long as your DD is well prepared and the person responsible for her is aware of your and her wishes then go for it.

Good Luck