Ryn,
Just a question, Has DH been putting on weight? I know this may sound weird but my DF put on most of the weight when i was preg with my DS. I only put on 5kg, where he put on about 10kg. So maybe your DH is getting all the weight.
And dont stress bout the lack of your bump, as it sounds to me that you were quite fit before falling preg, so your stomach will be a little sturdier than mine for instance. I have no control over my stomach muscles and i am getting the rounded look. And the BB issue, Oh i am so envious of you! I wish i had to wear gel bras! Im a DD and i can tell you that my BBs are sooo heavy its not funny. You will get them, Just might take some time thats all.
Jenni