Thanks girls - I do sometimes think I over-react, but my DH is right beside me on this one. Whilst we acknowledge that we can't have our first week alone, no-one will let us do that, we still want as much time alone as possible!

DH is being fab about everything, although he daren't stand up to my parents yet (I can sympathise with that!), but we can always hide from them. And the Christening, well, my Dad just shifted his work dates and my mum's going with him (he's in the merchant navy) - I know his work dates can shift, but this time he shifted them. I will ask if I can move the Christening on Thursday, at the classes, but hope that we can't! I think it's because they're upset that I'm not asking my sister to be godmother, because she wants to be, but DH and I want people who are actually Christians to be godparents! (Anyway, I had already asked the godmother, so can't change it now!)

Anyway, they are who they are, and I'm not going to change them so may as well do my best to like them for the sake of the children. DH has said no cuddles for anyone but the two of us if people do turn up in that week - I'll let him explain that one! But he doesn't want the baby to love anyone but us, bless him, so he's not allowing cuddles. I can see his point, his brother and SiL were like that when niece was born, only they did let some people and not others, so a blanket ban is a lot easier/fairer! But I wouldn't trust them alone with the baby, or with DH and the baby, because my mum and sister will snatch the baby away from DH and he's not used to them enough to scream blue murder at them for that. They'll try it with me, but I'll kick them out.

The more pushy they are, the less I want to see them or let them near the baby... shame, really, because we all lose out then. But I'm not going to give in unless they're nice! And promising presents for the big birthday isn't being nice... they can't just buy us off any more!