Thanks Lucy. I am glad I didn't offend you.
My mind-set was similar to yours when you chose not to be tested with Olivia. We tried for 12 months to conceive this baby so I wasn't about to give it up or risk a miscarriage.
I had heard so many stories of women being told via testing (including amnio) that their babies would have downs and then they babies have turned out to be perfectly fine.
My beef is that, yeah, they can tell you there is a risk but they can't tell you the severity. It might only be an extremely mild case of downs syndrome and the child will end up leading a very normal and productive life.
That was why I just didn't want to know. I figured if I had a baby with some problems, that was my cross to bare??
In saying that, I completely understand why some are not willing to take that risk. I also can see why some would opt for the test especially if genetic problems run in the family.
Like you said, it is a very personal choice and I guess, in the end, you have to go with your gut instincts, don't you??