Hi there

I had this too and it's the worst thing ever.

Here's a link to a support association in Australia Home which has lots of great information.

As far as the birth goes, the best tip is to not allow your knees to be separated too far in the pushing stage and to avoid being on your back. They also recommend to take in a piece of string that you've used to measure beforehand how far you can comfortably separate your knees.

My pet theory is that the position you push in and how long you push for influences how long the recovery is after the birth.

I started a thread about SPD and birthing choices here https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...es-wanted.html

In short, lots of women recover pretty quickly and others, like me, don't. I put that down to the fact that I had an epidural and then pushed for 2.5 hours flat on my back with my knees against my chest. That didn't hurt at all at the time but I think it further damaged my pelvis and I really wish I'd known then what I know now.

I can't say that the pelvic instability really affected my birth too much but that the choices I made during the birth had a huge impact on my recovery or lack thereof afterwards, if that makes sense!