After one week at home I found my mother to be more hinderence than help - yes, it's nice not to cook dinner, but that's why I'd frozen down meals in advance. I found she was kindly holding DS so I could have a coffee... I wanted to play with my son! I didn't care about a hot coffee! DH and I managed fine before he went back to work. My mother meant changing routines because she knows babies, I don't, do it this way. You may get on with your mother more, but I found I was overridden on quite a few things and DH had to ask her to leave.