After Claire was born, I spent 3 days in the hospital. DH then had the next week off work, which was great - it was great for just the two of us to 'get to know' Claire on our own. The next week MIL came to stay, and while its a lovely gesture of her, I actually found it more annoying than anything else. I didnt really want/need the help - I just wanted to be at home with Claire on my own but she was wanting to go out and do this and that and was even telling me to go out and she'll babysit (yah, cos youre going to breast feed her and all while I am out?? needless to say i didnt go out and leave her with mil.) So basically I hated it because it meant it was 2 weeks before I really got any mummy and daughter time, iykwim. (sorry if that sounds *****y, but i just wanted privacy and independance)