I dont' think it matters what the gap is, everyone will put in their 2 cents worth. We have a 7.5 year gap and EVERYONE says "was that planned"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHAT THE.. apart from the fact it's no one's business, wouldn't it be quite obvious that we didn't set out to have a 7.5 year gap to the day. I would never ask that question, you never know what people's circumstances are. It so happens, it's different dads, but I often don't bother saying. I should really say, "Yes we planned it to be that particular age gap, didn't want it any less or larger!" Might try that!