We had Pip in a cradle in our walk-in robe for the first 9 months - mind you, that's cause we physically didn't have any other room for him. Had a breathing sensor for his cradle and this gave a lot of relief. I tried co-sleeping with him in our bed but I'd wake up screaming, thinking I'd smothered him, even if he wasn't in our bed (so DH banned that idea ) I also spent the first weeks at home camped in the lounge with him.
You'll work out what to do and how it works for you - you could try borrowing a cradle / bassinet for a while before deciding. although TBH, you'll prolly know by the time you finish in hospy if you can sleep with a bub in your room or not. Take advantage of your hospy with DH to sleep over as well to see how he goes
Mine DS and DD1 were in a cradle next to the bed for the first few months. DS moved into his cot in his own room. DD1 moved into our bed for a few years! DD2 is already in our bed. Although she sometimes spends the first half of the night in her cradle which is pulled right up to my side of the bed. My DS hated co-sleeping and would never settle in our bed (although he always comes for a cuddle in the morning). Every baby is different and you will figure out what works for you.
My DH sleeps through any crying in the night and like so many others he has woken in the morning and said 'Gee, that was a great night, she slept all night!' as my eyeballs are hanging out of my head after an unsettled night of feeding and comforting! If I need him on a Friday or Saturday night, if I need DH's help, I literally have to kick him to wake him up and DH is not a particularly heavy sleeper. I think he just sets his brain to not respond to the crying during the week as he knows I will. He needs to tell his brain that weekends are different!!
We had DS in a basinette by the bed, DP would get up and change DS then give him to me to feed him. It's was very much a both up at night thing with us in the early days. I had a while where I had to express due to nipple issues, so I could get up and express and DP would be up feeding DS. I didn't want DS in his own room, I wanted him right there next to us I was very sad when we put him in his own cot in his own room (at about 4 months and only about 2 metres from our room).
I've had both mine in the bed with me at night and in the bassinet around the house during the day. Easy to wheel them around to which ever room you're in. When they got too big for the bassinet, they moved into the cot which we put next to our bed. We have only just moved the cot out of our room. DD still sleeps in bed with me over night and in the cot for day sleeps. DS often comes climbing into our bed during the night.
I found having them so close, I just "knew" as they were waking so they cried less and so DH wasn't woken much by them although he did (still does) get up to them if needed.
I think babies are safest when sleeping near their parents SIDS guidelines state this too, to keep baby close to you ie in your room for the first 6mths or so.
We had DD in our room with us for the first 4mths and you get used to hearing their little noises in the night too and it's reassuring they are breathing! I couldn't have imagined having DD anywhere else but with us! Mind you its exhausting getting up and having to walk to their room to feed them too!!!
After 4mths she went to her own room as she slept better in her own room as DH's snoring would wake her up! Then 9mths of age she came back in and co-slept with us from then on.....
I think it's one of those things you will just work out when bub arrives.
DD1 absolutely hated being in the bed with us, but was happy as larry in the cot in our room. i wanted her in my room but after 5 weeks couldnt handle all the grunting and farting that was eminating from her general direction while she slept...kept me awake . so she went to her own room with no fuss.
with DD2 she was in the bassinet in our room and now is in the cot in our room. she starts the night in her cot and if she wakes for a feed she generally then stays in our bed after that feed. LOVE IT! she loves it and i find i am less tired in the morning than when DD1 was this age in her own room (i feed her lying in bed, no getting up to the other room etc).
there are times when her grunting (but curiously no farting lol) does get to me (DH can sleep through anything lol) so i just migrate to the loungeroom where we have a mattress hiding under the couch ready to go (2 bdrm house ). it works well for us!
we will have bubs in our room in a bassinet DH wouldnt want it any other way...in fact it was his idea said he would sleep better that way he doesnt care if he wakes or not
We had our DS in our room in the hammock for the first 4 weeks, then in the cradle for the next 8 and then in his cot but still in our room until he was 10 months old and LOVED it! He was (and still is!) a fantastic sleeper so it made it quite easy for us, we all slept well, he was right there for feeds/should he need settling etc and to be honest, we just loved having our little family all close and together in the same room... Our bedroom is big though so there were no space restrictions even with his big cot in there we still had lots of space... I don't know I always find it strange that the smallest most defenceless person in the home is the only one who has to sleep alone? While the biggest 'protectors' of the house get to pair up and snuggle all night?? I know that's the way it is but it still seems weird to me! We would have co slept if we could have gotten over the fear of rolling over him in the night and sometimes did in the early days after the first morning feed.. We just loved having him so close, we cried when he went to his big boy room!
DS co-slept from day 1 until 18 months, he wouldn't go in his cot at all. He still goes through stages where I have to go in his bed but he pretty much sleeps through now.
DD went straight to a cot in her own room and thats how she liked it, she wouldn't co-sleep she liked her space. In the last 2-3 months she has been co-sleeping with us some nights usually from 1-2am, I love having her there.
This bub I have brought a bassinette, it is next to our bed atm but I'm just going to wait and see what works for bub and us.
I always took my babies to the lounge to feed them, I could never get comfy feeding them in bed.
I have had all my kids in a bassinett in our room until i just couldnt handle it anymore all my boys slept through the night from around 4 weeks but i would wake up with every snuffle or grunt and just couldnt get a good night sleep and my boys started to rely on there fathers snoring to sleep so i moved them out but i did check on them and would give them a little poke if i couldnt see there breathing movements.
This baby i will do the same but i am buying a sleep monitor to reasure me.
U will decide wht is right for you when bub comes And it may change as well ,thats ok you need to do what workds for you guys
DD has her cot in our rook and has had it since she was born, i could not imagine it any other way..I would not feel comfortable with out her being in reach of me ,she has slept in the cot and in our bed ,I find it easier as she feeds at night and wakes a lot , i find it easier not havng to go to another room for that.Also i know me and i know i would worry about her and want to go check her if she was in another room.
So now the cot in still in our room but we have our mattress on the floor,DD sleeps with us and in her cot ..She is noisy but we find it cute anf funny , with her wakeful nights we def get more sleep with her in our bed with her noises than we would if she was in another room..
She is now 9 months and i honestly can not imagine her being in another room..I think we will move her cot when she is ready, we are in no rush for it , we love her with us ,but im sure there will be a time when she needs her space hehehe
DD has always slept in our room. She was in her bassinett at first but would often be in our bed to help her reflux. She would only sleep on her tummy and it felt safer to do that in our bed rather than in her own. I know it goes against all guidelines, but it felt right for us. She did go back to her bassinett when things settled down around 3-4 months. But at around 6 months something changed and we gave up trying to get her to sleep in her cot (which we even moved into our room). We now happily co-sleep and every morning DH asks me how our night was.
Personally, if DH gets disturbed, too bad. It's called parenthood.
) I also spent the first weeks at home camped in the lounge with him.
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I couldn't have imagined having DD anywhere else but with us! Mind you its exhausting getting up and having to walk to their room to feed them too!!! 
. so she went to her own room with no fuss.
). it works well for us!
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