The only baby shower ive had was with my firstborn - my sisters organised one for AFTER she was born - 14 days after infact. They did everything....i just had to offer my house and my presence !!!!
We didnt know what we were having, i felt silly having people around celebrating my baby when she wasnt here yet....i also knew, that when baby was born, everyone would be wanting to see her (naturally), so have a party after she was born, and inviting those people that would have popped over anyway, kinda killed 2 birds with one stone...

I also got things i genuinly wanted and needed...i.e girl stuff. Not bone or yellow stuff.